Am i wrong for wanting to work?

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I have been looking for a job because my husband has been paying all the bills since my job ended. I found one that is really good paying and it will be alot of hrs. my husband works 5 days a week. He is mad because i want to take the job, but is saying "Then i'll never get to see you."  He says the same thing when he is at work and i go to my mom or my sisters house. I tried applying at the place he works and he says "I dont think you will like working here." Am i supposed to just sit at home and be bored all day?

Rachel · Answer

The decision is a matter of priority and values. Is work more important or making time for your husband/marriage more important? If you take the job with long hours you may be sacrificing your marriage in the long term. You may be able to find a job with less hours. Your husband clearly wants more time with you than he is getting. 

For me, my husband comes first....before my mom, sister, work, community service, kids, anything else that is important to me in my life.

Connor · Answer

A marriage is a partnership and both individuals have to be happy.  If you want to work he should support that.  You've explained to him why it's important for you to work, so focus on finding something you really want to do.  Unless you have small children and day care is an issue he really needs to stop being selfish.

Lillan · Answer

Nothing wrong with you wanting to work.. It is hard now days and it is not going to get easier, Just assure your husband that nothing comes before him and he needs to give you a chance. You deserve it and It is a wonderful thing you want to do, I am about to be married and my fiance is happy I want to work. Support means a lot in a relationship..

zigzigfan · Answer

You need to think about you! If you want to work, than do it. You are married, guessing you have no children yet, but you need to contribute to the household income so you may build some wealth for Your future children and/or your future lifestyle, retirement, life insurance, investments, etc. Figure out what is personal satisfaction for you and live your life the way you want to.

kryssy · Answer

As much as we love our husbands/ ssignificant other whom we live with, they sometimes forget that we have our own personalities which we would want to nurture. Talk to him and explain to him that he is the number one priority. Assure him that he will have your time and you will see eacch other. Do not stop your social life and doing what is important to you because of him. We should understand

Thomas T · Answer

No ur not wrong in wanting to work, ur husband from what u say sounds as if he loves u very much. Love and marriage is about compromise, so why not work part time?

michelle · Answer

he wants you at the house catering to him and his needs, and not have something active and fulfilling going on in your own life.

? · Answer

ask yourself
what is more important in your life?
he wants to see you....................
working and taking care of the home, is
not all that is cracked up to be

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Am i wrong for wanting to work?

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