Why people would start caring when someone had died ? Why did not they care before someone died?

I reckon it's just because thats what they want to happen when they die; all matters to be resolved, everyone to miss them and mourn them and for them to be able to rest in peace. It's really just selfishness, all things are, I'm sure that occasionally, some people actually don't realise how much they care about a person until they die, or start missing that person when they're dead as they don't realise just how important they were, hope I've helped :)

They care because of their personal loss. If I had a diamond ring in my jewelry box I don't go polish it every day. Only when I lose it do I wish I had put it in a safe. Our minds are overwhelmed these days. We are concerned about so many things. If someone doesn't look like they need special attention we move to the things that do. If someone is sick we focus on them, we don't focus on the well ones. Just the same as Buddha and Jesus did..they focused on the sick not the well.

You can't say society is heartless.

You can care about people but you can't focus on everyone and everything. Once they die we take a few moments out of our lives to give them that time of reflection.

If you have only a few people in your life you can show you care more easily than if you had 25 friends co-workers, family etc.

yeah society is heartless and people are selfish. Nowadays a days people are caught up in rat race. Since,my family members died,i started taking care of my other family members. Also, sometimes we are not heartless but we never think we gonna lose them so soon. Then someone dies,we realise.

I have thought of that sooooo many times and ask , why do people speak so good of them when in reality they didnt when that person was alive.......it doesnt make sense, I guess , in a way they feel sorry for that person cause they are gone from earth?

I think they dont 'think' of the good things in people until they die, they dont realize they should have been a ....better friend...better sibling...friend .etc.

in Women's class at church one time, the teacher ask each of us tell what they liked best in each member there in the class room....when we all got through, everyone was smiling and happy and felt content....we should practice that more often wouldnt the world be a better place?

To me, it seems like they want to stay in the loop. I've known people who don't like certain artists, but all of a sudden they were their #1 fan when they pass away. Same thing goes for someone in our hometown dying that they barely knew, if they even knew them at all. Most people I've seen do it only do it because they want to be a part of a big conversation.

When I was in high school there was a girl who committed suicide. She only had 3 people that she talked to and considered her friend, but everyone was acting like they were close to her. Even the people who used to make fun of her. I try not to associate with those type of people.

Well, as far as I think and when the subject is philosophy I have the following approach -

When someone is alive we think that we can spend some time with him/her whenever we want. But when someone dies, we feel uncomfortable and nondependent that he/she is gone forever and we cannot spend time with them or do whatever we can. So at the time we need them, we feel upset about the person. Even at the time we don't need them, we start thinking that when we need them, they will not be present!

Because they feel 'loss'.

People don't realise the full value of something/someone in their life until they lose it.

People can see clearly and realise how much it meant to them because their life has changed without it/someone. Which really shows that we are selfish in some extent.

Quite frankly, it shows that we usually care for someone we already lost because it has affected 'us', it caused us pain, sadness and we start to care for it just to care for us.. Which is way too late.

"Sometimes we'll have to run away just to see who will run after us."

People always think they have more time. Leo Buscalia tells a story about a man, who upon the death of his wife is so overcome with grief he wants to buy the red dress she always wanted. Leo scolds the man asking why he never bought it for her while she was alive. Buying the dress now is something he will do for himself, not his dead wife.

i think of whilst human beings you adore are alive and nicely you're taking them with no attention and function a tendency to anticipate which you have perpetually interior the international to spend with them and you come across different issues to prioritise, yet whilst they develop into ill and function in basic terms weeks to stay you recognise no longer something is assured and remorseful relating to the time you have got spent jointly and their time is going up heavily in fee. It ought to easily be the way the concepts prioritises issues that look greater pressing.

This is answered by economic thought. Scarcity = value.