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lose erection during sex?
Hi, I am a 25 year old guy. Lately I've been having a bit of problem maintaining erection during sex.
For example, I can get a erection easily during foreplay (In fact I don't even worry about that, an erection would naturally come on).
However, during the last two times I had sex, about 20 minutes into intercourse, I would lose erection.
during the intercourse I did came close to ejaculation at two points, at which I stopped briefly to get "cool" again.
Is this something I need to worry about?
one more detail. my fiance was a virgin before we met. and she is not very sexually active. she would usually say she is too sore or too numb about 20-30 minutes after starting intercourse. usually we would stop, and she would use her hand to get me to ejaculate.
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- unknown friendLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
I'm going to answer but you may not like the answer, most men don't like to admit it but its true. An erection is actually caused and controlled by your brain. When you are stimulated your brain kicks in and causes it and doesn't shut it off until something happens to make your mind go elsewhere. That usually happens after ejaculation or if something takes your attention off the task at hand.
Most men can't keep it up for 20 minutes which is why woman say without counting foreplay the actual act only lasts 10 minutes. That's normal. As your girlfriend is still relatively new at having sex she is probably still tense and not creating enough lubrication herself which is why she gets sore it's the friction causing it. You can buy lubricants for that until she learns to relax and enjoy it more.
You on the other hand are so worried about her which is good but it is causing you to take your mind off of what your doing without you realizing it out of worry causing you to go down. Next time you feel yourself going down return to foreplay to relax your girlfriend and keep your mind on what your doing it will make a big difference.
It doesn't sound like there is anything wrong with either of you, you just both need to relax and take it slower. It will all work out.
- 8 years ago
don't cool off. simple as that. use other measures to last more , only after you tried not cooling off and not loosing your errection
Source(s): I'm a Doctor
