Dear women, why do you keep falling for the myth that sex is supposed to hurt?

There'll be multiple women answering who will insist that sex should hurt - I bet not a single one will go educate themselves, despite having a vagina between their legs and a wealth of information online or in books that will prove to them that this is simply not true; sex can hurt, but it doesn't mean that it should or that pain isn't avoidable.

Women don't learn about their genitals so they believe this myth that sex hurts based on what others have told them, thus they have sex expecting pain and have no idea how to prevent pain - unsurprisingly then they do experience pain during sex and think it's normal. So they believe this myth is true based on their experience rather than on facts...and the myth goes on. They are more willing to suffer pain than to learn how to prevent pain and increase pleasure, which is insane.

It's terrifying that people lack basic sexual education from parents and the eduction system, and rather than educating themselves people come up with their own explanations as to why sex could hurt based on myths such as tightness or the hymen tearing. Because they know no better they then get this stuck in their mind as if it were fact and are unwilling to learn any different. Men are just as guilty of believing this myth as women, both genders/sexes are equally responsible.

For me the issue is not just a total ignorance of basic anatomy and sex, of people who are sexually active so should know better, but that women are so willing to purposefully allow themselves to be hurt in such as way that also risks their health and their long-term attitudes to sex. So many women are happy to lay there passively experiencing pain without telling their partners or stopping sex because they feel obliged to give their male partners pleasure - it just doesn't occur to them to demand that they have a pain-free safe and pleasurable sexual experience themselves.

Ladies, men are as capable of learning about the female anatomy as you - I'd personally be very concerned if my man didn't know at least these basics about female anatomy. The OP is male, however he still knows more about your genitals than you - this shouldn't be the case!

When you figure out the answer to this one, please let me know. My ex just left me the same way and we had the same issues, however, when I reflect back on the relationship I realize that I was the only person in love. That he showed signs all the time of having his own best interests at heart. He was never there for me when I needed him, emotionally, because that was the only part of the relationship that he could help me with and instead of helping me through things that he could have, he opted to leave the relationship and cause me more grief every time. Some people are just assholes but do know that he will regret it one day, when he goes to step off a curb and his knee gives out because trust me, what goes around, comes back around and it doesn't necessarily come back the way that it was put out there. Don't worry, the best thing that you can do for him is to not contact him, don't accept his calls and move on with your life and be happy because as long as you allow him to keep you down. He will.

Actually some women have medical conditions that make sex very painful. To say sex should never hurt is a lie.

Just another collection of girls who have fallen into this ignorant trap, just like you talked about in my question. You don't need a vagina to understand things logically so these girls should shut up with that. You were wrong about the clitoris thing though, the vagina is efficient with bringing women pleasure, atleast it is with women who havn't fallen into this same kinda ignorant trap.

What about gay guys sex does hurt for me even after my first time

Well truth is you're a man so you can't TRULY understand. Vaginas are very sensitive. Losing your virginity is absolutely supposed to hurt, no matter how lubricated or aroused, you're RIPPING skin, tearing the hymen hurts, I mean it bleeds for gods sake! Whenever I have sex, even now after I've had a child, it always hurts when my boyfriend first puts it in, no matter how aroused and wet I am. I guess I'm just a tight gal and he's a big guy, but it only hurts when he first puts it in because it's the initial stretch. After that it feels awesome.

Bobby do you know anything about a vagina? Have you ever had a vagina? No? Then shut up and listen to those who do. Painful sex just depends on who has sex. I don't masturbate, but there are others who do. No one has sex exactly the same. I've never had a full vaginal intercourse, but I do blow my boyfriend, and he licks my vagina.

Having sex for the first time is painful!!!!All the people that I know told me that they cried when it first happened

!and now I'm too scared to have sex for the first time! :(

Do you have a vagina? No? Wait... I didn't know that Paul Ryan knew how to use Yahoo! Answers.

You don't even habve a vagina WTF? Yeah tell me it doesn't hurt when something 6+ more inches goes into a hole that's never had anything in it. Maybe you should let someone put it in your butt so you can have an underrateding.