Why are some people so rude and ungrateful?

People are strange, don't take it to heart.

Remember, they are doing the best that they can at the moment.

Don't let their attitude make you reflect their poor behaviour.

Just love them for who they are just as they are.

Remember, it isn't what they are doing that is causing you to be upset. It is your expectation about how they should have responded that has you bothered.

From my religious philosophy; the behaviour of human beings is shaped by the constant struggle for survival.

The belief in a false ' ego ' or ' self ', we tend to harbour within ourselves negative qualities like anger, rudeness, jealousy, ungratefulness, greed and enemity. We believe that our survival can only assured if we destroy everyone else whom we perceive as a source of danger to us - thus we believe in the ' survival of the fittest '.

Rudeness, arrogance and selfishness are such traits ..... the by-products of our constant struggles.

Survival by all means, we enjoy life by lying, swindling or cheating our fellow human beings and disturbing the peace of others.

We thus commit more evil than good deeds. Our belief in a permanent self leads us to seek protection at the expense of others.

This state of affairs was the precise reasons that some people are so rude and ungrateful.

I think,people who can't say thank you are egoistic or may be they haven't get thank you from anyone in their life. I think, attitude has to be taught in the childhood. They may not have learnt these four magic words. Rudeness is also an attitude. That is why ATTITUDE=100.

If such people go for an attitude test ,the result will come very low that means they have go for Treatment(Attitude therapy).

We are taught to be selfish. To compete. "contest between organisms and groups" -Biology

In the West we are taught by this institution to "pursue our indivisual dreams" this means that only problem is that in reality there are only so much natural resourses on this earth.

Like Rats for example, the more resources available to a particular group the more they will reproduce. The more they reproduce the more organisms present to consume remaining resources. Ultimately, there will be a depletion. The organisms will soon turn on each other and fight to recover what they can for themselves.

During the Black Plague of Europe, Families abandoned children. Queen Elizabeth basically took all of the Elizabethan physicians for herself, retreated to Scotland and ordered anyone coming from England to be killed, for fear of bringing contagion. In the Holy Bible there is a passage called "Two Kings", which has a somewhat well known account of a mother of a child offering to cook her child to eat during a famine.

Humans are not co-operative creatures. Humans are competitive creatures. It through is the purpose of survival, humans are selfish.

People are not just rude. They are not able to trust you; they do not believe that good exists.

For such people just smile and try to be good. Just to make them realize how wrong they are, and how beautiful everything can be if they give up all wrong thoughts.

Also, if someone is being rude, never make yourself like him. You hate him for his rudeness. Do not let you hate yourself for the same reason.

I do not pay much attention on such people. Just like all the fingers of your hand are not the same, people are not same either. So, just ignore people who can make you angry.

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I am unwilling to pass such judgments on others unless I am willing to walk in their shoes to see if I would behave differently.

And frankly, I'm just not fool enough to voluntarily submit myself to whatever another is suffering/dealing with. . .for no other reason than the privilege of passing judgement on them.

Giving should be a reward unto itself. If it is dependent on how it is received, that's not giving.

That's giving to get. . .and your question is based on the disappointment that you didn't get the reward from another you think you deserve.

I don't make excuses for others behavior. . .I'm too busy being grateful I am not experiencing what is driving that behavior.

Honestly, I stopped caring or wondering. I may get offended here and there, but the cost of their behaviour is ultimately on them. So why bother at all?

well from what ive learned over the years, when feelings and behavior are involved, there is ALWAYS a reason for it.

for example, someone who seem to never say thank you and never aprreciate things people do for him may be because in his childhood he tried to do good dids for others but they never got aprreciated (even by his parents).

so dont be so quick on judging people, theyre behavior is allot more complex and is causeed by reasons that the stranger to them wouldnt understand.

There will always be givers, and there will always be takers to take from the givers. But like I always told my kids, keep on doing the right things, even if no one else does. Be the example.

Unfortunately you can not change how people react. The only thing you can do is to give with a giving hart, which means when you give something you should give it with no strings attached.