Dating and Blow-jobs?

First of all, you need to love yourself before someone else can. It doesn't matter if you're overweight or poor. If you take care of yourself and you're the best you that you can be, then that's all that matters. Nobody is perfect. I was poor when I met my husband, and I wasn't a gold digger!

Saving yourself for marriage is a beautiful thing. I applaud you. I didn't do that with my first marriage, but did with my second. And, I wish I would of waited.

I think that if you're willing to give a ******** or hand job, then you're obviously open to losing your virginity and you're not technically saving yourself.

If you find someone that you care about deeply and trust, and you have no doubts - then go for it. You'll know when and if it's right. If you have to ask, then it's not right. I'd work on developing some self confidence and guys will be drawn to you! You'll be just fine! Good luck.

You should get checked out too if you make him go with you. And if you each know the other is clean, then you don't need to use condoms for oral sex as there is no risk of STD transmission and there is no risk of pregnancy. These are the two reasons for using condoms.

Other than that it sounds like a good idea. Just make sure he reciprocates. Don't look at it as a gift but as a mutually shared pleasure. It creeps me out when people think sexual activity is a reward for being good or a gift or something, like you don't like it to do it of its own accord... It should be something that is mutually enjoyable. To this end, you should also let him reciprocate. As a rule of thumb, if it's on your body, the tongue feels good on it. Conversely, handjobs do not really feel good (I am a boy) as any guy can give himself a way better handjob than a girl can give him.

You know how to give the best handjob ever?

With your mouth.

Well that should be completely up to you.

You sound like you're fine with it though so go right ahead.

I'm not sure what you were talking about at the end but don't put a condom on him while you're blowing him, it really just wouldn't be worth it if that's what you're thinking. If my gf had me do that I would just say forget it hah.

Your taking some of this to far past the line. You might scare him away. I understand that you care but not to that extent. You don't want him to get the wrong idea like you thinking he has aids or something. I did blow jobs and hand jobs but those are steps that take you further into having sex. Explain how you feel first.

No condoms. Swallow the sperm. Stop laying down laws or you will die a virgin sad and lonely. Don't worry about weight. Wear black and purple and go to goth gigs. Hand out blowies left right and centre until you find my right. Basically stop being a prissy Christian

Use a condom