Is it time to let go?

Love is a strange and beautiful feeling. It gives you wings as much as it can destroy you. To love is wonderful to find love is special and rare but it does not mean holding onto that one person you think you trully love is the right thing to do. You have to learn to let go. No matter how hard it sounds, how much time it takes, he clearly moved on and you should do that as well. Get rid of everything you own that belonged to him / reminds you of him: txts, emails, pics, presies... anything, distance yourself from him (I dont believe being friend with an ex you still have feelings for is a good thing, this is psychological torture, and he does not sound nice enough to be able to be your friend, he has you wrapped up around his little finger and he knows it) and live for yourself. Dont torture yourself, dont live in the past, you must be strong. It's not worth trying to get this guy back, instead of giving you good reasons to end your relationship he is telling you God talked to him... great, that's worrying. The only thing that can happen with somebody like that is he will hurt you again. I am sure you loved him very much but remember: love is blind. Actually, love is completely blind. Move on. All the girl community is with you, this situation must have happened at least once to all of us. hope that helps. Take care xx

Oh hun, Yes I been heart broken by the same person several times was dating for 4 years so I know how it feels like. First off I'm sorry that you are going through this, I know your heart feels like its literally ripping apart and you cant do anything to stop it. Look in my opinion and I'm saying this from experience you cant be friends with someone you still love especially when they know you are still head over heels for them. I know it seems impossible to imagine not even being able to be friends with him, but you have to let go of him for good. I remember being told the same thing and I would literally go out with my ex and the "new girlfriend" as friends and I finally open my eyes and was like what in the hell am I doing.? I felt like a fool for letting someone have me in this kind of state. So my words to you is let him go, and start to concentrate on you. and believe me little by little he would be old news. Try to get your self together and situated and if he comes crawling back and wanting to rekindle what ya once had when you've finally got over it now you can turn the table and play the same card he played on you, some might say that's a bit immature but it sure does feel GOOD. good luck hun hope I helped.

I know how it feels when you think they're the one and they break up and go to another. When it's fast its almost surreal, you can't believe its really happening. You can't believe that they found someone so fast because it makes it seem like what you had must have been a dream.

I went back over the relationship in my mind and made myself look at it. I put on my critical vision and thought about disagreements we had and made myself remember times I was cast aside for something or someone else. Think back. Was he really THAT perfect? Maybe you allowed yourself to be blinded by love and making out. When we get swept off our feet we need to get up and not stay in that state of being "off our feet" it is like being drunk. It smooths and glazes over many things.

Now my advice will sound sort of like the rest.

Move on. Pack the stuff up he gave you into a box and commit to not looking at it for at least 6 months to a year. Remove his contact from your sight. That means make it so you can't speed dial him, remove him from the boyfriend area, too and get rid of that special ring-tone.

Don't look at anything that concerns his social life. No looking at his FB even if it means unfriending him or taking him out of your news feed. If you can't resist the urge then block him.

Don't go in the same public areas as him. He doesn't need to see how sad you are right now. He might even think it's interesting to have two women like him.

Just avoid him. If you need to pull strength from the situation, remember he got over you fast. You don't need to feel guilty about moving on. Moving on doesn't necessarily mean search for a replacement, doing that too fast can cause you not to heal properly. Try to do things that you wouldn't normally do with him. Keep doing those things. Pay attention to your personal growth and friendships. Make new friends. If you went to church together make sure you don't sit anywhere near him. I would suggest sitting behind tall people or a big group so you don't have to see him. You don't need to be friends with him at all if you don't want to, at least not for a long time.

It isn't important what he thinks. Stop living for him! I know you want to be friends with this guy but it hurts.

This is also your one chance to make him miss you and miss you bad. I don't know why I feel like writing this, but since he already knows how much you loved him, leaving him with that thought might be the best thing. He needs to feel like he lost something and something big. I'm not saying make this your new quest, please don't. I'm just saying that down the road if your paths ever meet again, maybe he will rethink things.

Meanwhile, enjoy your new life.