Non-Valentining Spouse/Significant other.....?

Ill get you flowers if you give me a sandwich.

Long before there was a Hallmark, my grandfather paid someone to make clever romantic lacy loving Valentines for my Grandmother. We found them in her trunk after she died. She'd saved them for 60 years. Theirs was NOT a love affair for the ages. No money, no evidence of continually kindled passion, none of their children recall being raised in a particularly loving home. But it was done. People made beautiful professional individualized cards and husbands bought them for their wives. It isn't like Hallmark invented cards! They just made a huge business out of taking care of the production of them on a mass scale.

We do a modest Valentine's Day. I did have to explain to my husband, a couple of decades ago, that a card, or a balloon, a flower, an invitation to a meal, or a movie, a date, a toast.... something, a homemade 10 minute card with a poem, is required to acknowledge the day of lovers before I fall asleep by the end of the day. Just something. And we always do, both of us always do, and it is very nice. It is the day of lovers. Why decide it doesn't matter? It's nice.

we are pretty much the same except we take it as an excuse to do something nice together. No expensive stuff, just indoors, dinner, dessert, movie. We try and spend time every day so feb 14th is not singled out.

If you feel about it, why don't you cook something nice for the two of you?

My husband and I both don't do Valentine's Day. We see it as a Hallmark holiday as well. The way I look at it, we spend every day all year long showing our love to one another, we don't need a silly "holiday" to tell us when to be lovey-dovey.

My wife of 37 years, came to hate Florist holidays while working in a Candy Shop in a nose in the air mall.

I love her more for that.

How about an extra hug and I love you tonight.

That should handle it.

I feel the same way he does, but I give her a card and take her to dinner because it makes her happy, and I like making her happy.

If you want something from your male significant other, ASK HIM FOR IT. Expecting him to read your mind will only result in disappointment, bitterness, and confusion.

You call it Valentine's Day, I call it Thursday.. I did get my wife a card and chocolates. She didn't get me anything but I don't care. She adores me and I know it. That's all that matters.

Perhaps you both need to get on the same page. If you wanna celebrate it, then do so. Have you considered giving him a little something.....♥♥

If you want it, he should do it out of love or respect. But since you are pretending that you feel the same way about it, you can't complain now!