How do I stop myself from listing after other women?

If you're lusting at everything and anything that walks, then you really need to remain single. You're the kind of guy who can not remain faithful, even though you're giving it a gallant try right now. This is just who you are. You need to let your partner of 5 years know that you're not the marrying kind.

It's normal to be attracted to other women. There is a difference between lust and attraction. Attraction is when you see a women and think she's pretty, beautiful, sexy, (and it may even cause a reaction in you such as a hard on). That is normal and okay...

Lust goes farther. Lust is when you see someone you are attracted to and start to imagine yourself being sexual with them. It's when you take it a step farther in your mind and actually imagine what it would be like to have sex with them and what you'd like to do with that person.

To prevent lust you have to stop, accept the fact you are attracted to the person, and make the choice to not Imagine having sex with the women. It takes practice if you have low self control but is preventable. Lust is a reflection of you and your own perversion and NOT a reflection on your partner. It has nothing to do with whether or not she is the "right girl." It's an issue you have. You are the only one you can control your thoughts, and you have the ability to do so, with practice and self awareness.

Good luck. And something to always remember. "Don't swim with sharks if you don't want to get bitten." As in, if you know you are more likely to cheat in curtain situations, than don't even put yourself in those situation hoping you'll just find the self control, because you wont and....because it will happen.

It's a guy thing. No matter how much you love her and how hot she is or how great your relationship is, you're always going to look at others and there will always be an element of "lust." It is just the way guys are made. The difference is whether or not you act on it.

Now, if you are willing to act on it, then there is obviously something missing in your relationship that you crave. Maybe it's the thrill of a new conquest. If that's it, try role playing. Have your girl go to a bar dressed in a wig and you go there and hit on her. Play it up big time and see where it goes.

Eventually if you keep looking at other women, you will find one willing to go along with your "lust." It's just a matter of time.

To a certain extent that's normal to have feelings of lust and attraction to other women. That's called being a man. As long as you don't ACT on those feelings. It's OK to notice women as long as you don't ogle them while your partner is sitting right beside you. that's just bad manners.

For a lot of men, they could be married a woman with a pronstar body, who was the nicest sweetest most loving wife in the world, and great in bed...and they would still have feel attraction for other women sometimes.

If you're actually trying to hit on other women when you're drunk, then yes I think you shouldn't get drunk in public.

Your lust is just your testosterone giving you the signals. It's not your fault that (a) the women are attractive, or (b) your body is alerted and aroused. It's just attraction. Your acting upon the attraction is another matter, though. "When I was a child, I thought like a child, did childish things; but when I became a man, I put childish things aside"

I agree with Sondra 100%.

I don't know why people like you bother to get into a relationship when you can't keep it in your pants and you can't keep your eyes to yourself.

You are trying to remain faithful.... but then again why should you have to try so hard not to sleep with someone else ? That's an insult to your partner that you have to try THAT hard in order to not cheat on her. It should be effortless not to want to sleep with someone else, you ALREADY have someone.

You are just not meant to be in a relationship, nothing wrong with that, just let her know so she can find someone else.