Should people get a proof of child support expenses?

This has been addressed many times by lawsuits and ruled upon..

the standard is this..the custodial parent IS SUPPORTING THE CHILD with non specific expenses, ie rent for a home, food, utilities, etc. It is not rational to think that someone is gonna sit down and "divvy up" that the child's share of the electric bill is $40 or that it costs $12 a day to feed that child explicitly. Child support extends beyond the immediate identifiable DIRECT cost such as clothes.

So, courts have ruled that the basis for child support is a PERCENTAGE of the income of the non custodial parent, and not an expense based criteria.

It should never have to come to that. Day to day expenses are hard to account for, and would be too cumbersome for the custodial parent. If there is an alleged drug problem, that should be immediately addressed in family court.

Most non-custodial parents are never forced to pay half of the true cost of child raising... it works both ways. Maybe if you were submitted an actual invoice breakdown of the costs, and forced to pay half, you'd shut-up rather quickly.

There is no extra. Let me help you out here.

My ex pays $539. The court says my child costs just over $1100, leaving me with almost $600.

My daughter has a bedroom. It's not appropriate for her to share a room with either her brothers or me. So, she gets a bedroom. Instead of a two bedroom for $700, I have a three bedroom for $900. Her bedroom costs $200. Should I give my ex a receipt for that?

I have health insurance. I pay for this from my paycheck. My older son has insurance through his dad, so he's not on it. My husband has his own insurance. My younger son, my daughter, and I are on my insurance. For a single person (me), it's $75. For two people, it's $120. For the family, it's $160. Her cost of insurance is $40.

She goes to daycare. Maybe this is the only receipt he needs. Because that alone costs me $780. This allows me to go to work and cover my own expenses (like the rest of our home), my son's expenses, and my share of her expenses.

If you're keeping track, we've reached a total cost of $1020 for her. Should we start breaking down the grocery receipt now and calculating how many cookies she ate, how many ounces of rice she had, how many of those eggs were hers, or how much of that milk she drank? Because I don't buy groceries for her separately, so that's kinda hard to give a receipt for. All I can say for sure is that the pull ups are hers. But, even the wipes are broken down. I used two for her, three for her little brother, by the end of the box she used 750 of the 1200, so her share of that $40 was not quite $25. That would take too much of my free time and I'm a little busy actually being the parent to this child. Besides, frankly, the man who hasn't even bothered to meet his daughter in her two years of life doesn't deserve to be that involved in my grocery receipts and there's no point in setting us up to argue over whether she really ate all the cookies in the middle of the night.

Oh, and we don't even get into the costs of phones. I have three adults in the house with smartphones. If she gets a hold of one of them and flushes it down the toilet, guess who pays for it? Yep, I cover the cost of having insurance and the deductibles when she destroys our phones.

Child support doesn't cover it. No receipt necessary to know that a taken care of child costs more than that tiny support check from some deadbeat who cares more about keeping his money than being a part of his child's life.

Btw, I cover my daughter's needs with my paycheck because I can't count on his child support. When his child support comes, I can breath a sigh of relief because I'll be able to make my car payment. I had prepared to sacrifice for her and, thanks to child support enforcement, can continue to cover my own needs too. So I don't worry for a moment when I use the child support card to pick up my lunch because I used my personal debit card to cover her expenses.