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Relationship advice... What should I do here?

Ok, so we met in December and made it official in Jan.. Everything was going really well, we both said we where really happy and couldn't believe how well it was going etc.

Anyway, last week we had our first proper fight over something really stupid and didn't speak for a day, he then ended it.

We met up the day after and had a long chat, both said all the things we wasn't happy about etc and he said the main reason he ended it was because he had been talking to other guys online (only as friends and most of them are in diff countries) but he felt guilty about it because my last relationship sort of ended because my ex got talking to someone then ran off with him.

Anyway, we then said instead of rushing back into it we would go back to dating and see how it goes. Yet since this he doesn't seem to actually want to see me or talk very much and when I have seen him, we don't cuddle or kiss or anything anymore. I tried to ask what was actually going on with us and he got all stroppy and said just go with the flow.

Then last night I asked if he wanted to do something but he said no, he wanted a lazy night so I went to see my friend.. while out I text him saying I wanted a hug and kiss, his reply was get your friend to give you one and was being really distant. I stopped texting him then got a text saying 'I'm watching a film, wish you where here with me' I ignored that one too and then got one saying 'I'm thinking about you' to wish I also ignored to then get one saying 'Sleep well tonight'

Anyway, I text back this morning just saying hope ur ok etc and not really spoke much today but then he just called and invites me round his tonight and invites me to go to his friends wedding with him..

I'm so confused as to what is going on here but can't seem to ask without him getting stroppy :S Any advice would be muchly appreciated!

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Wow it does not sound as though he is as into you as you are him? Don't mean to be cruel but if he was really into you he would be falling over himself to get it right with you. You can try two things actually get your mates round and I mean really good friends who respect and want the best for you and get him to come round and get there opinion of how he is with you and if they think he really is worth it.

    They can be a good judge sometimes especially if our own judgement is clouded...love is blind!

    This is just an objective opinion for you to think about and I don't know you or him and could be reading it all wrong so my advice is to get the opinion of trusted friends...

    Failing that you should take a step back maybe he is one of those people who if they are pushed will back away no matter how much they do or don't like someone...

    Take a step back be like mr cool! See what he does then.. If he comes forward then that is the way to play it...maybe he likes to chase?

    It's hard to tell... But really most guys will back of if pushed too much they don't like the clingy it smacks of desperation (no offence) and it makes them feel that if your desperate something must be wrong and that maybe you aren't the one etc etc

    So be cool my friend even though it may be hard be cool! Play it by ear take it slow try now to get to analysing about everything he does and doesn't do even though its hard you must chill!

    CHILL ,take it from there see where it goes

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    it actually sounds like the two of you get ticked-off way too easily to be together.

    either way there needs to be some serious discussion for you to have in deciding

    what the future holds for you.

    good luck.

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