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Do you think the theories help explain the happiness of marriage life?

Two theories of a happy life, especially of a happy marriage life.

Theory 1. Marry to love or love the person you marry

Theory 2. Love to marry.

Both the theories deal with the solidity of the marriage produced by their respective process. Marriage itself is a long term solid or fixed event. In relationship Type 1 love occurs under the fixed factor, marriage. Therefore love is more solid and permanent for a person who already has tuned herself or himself to the religious guidance that to love the spouse is a form of prayer or another way getting nearness to The God. In this type of marriage, the pre-marital discussions or meetings are mainly for the purpose of collecting and verification of information about the suitability of one to another in a broader social perspective. The average marriage occurs at an early age of adult-hood.

On the other hand in type 2 relationship in the absence of marriage or marital obligations, love can be volatile or changing, i.e. more than one, depending upon the number of options in hand. Therefore the resulting experience can be complicated and complex. Thus marriage out of this type of relationship can also be more volatile. The marriage occurs at a later stage of adult-hood.

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  • ?
    Lv 5
    8 years ago
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    In a very simplistic manner those theories are correct to an extent.

    But in marriage there are many different nuances which some can't even be understood by the couple or individual.

    Consider that some people are in a culture that has prearranged marriages. Some people married because their parents wanted to gain more money and power if their son or daughter married someone with money and power. Some people get married because they lust after the partner and once the novelty wears off the marriage falls apart. Or maybe they grow together and overcome what ulterior motives brought them together.

    I've been married for quite a while but only have my own personal experience to speak on and observing the marriages of others from an outside perspective. As far as books go on the subject, they might just be one more persons experience and opinion so I don't put a lot of merit on just one book.

  • 5 years ago

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  • 8 years ago

    A marriage can only truly be happy and successful if they have God within the marriage. The bible tells us regarding marriage that a threefold cord can not quickly be torn in two---Eccesiastes 3:12

    That threefold cord being the husband, the wife, and most importantly Jehovah God.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    If you get happiness out of being enslaved to another person for life unless you feel like going through a long court process that ends with you still being enslaved to said person, you are the most masochistic human I have ever seen.

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