Just found out my husband has been watching porn, he knows I'm against it. I don't know what to do?

That's B.s I don't blame you . I feel like if married men wanted to continue to watch that shiz then they could have stood single groping on themselves the rest of there lives ALONE ! Its a sign of immaturity I mean what kind of grown father to be married man rather stare at an edited video of a girl faking everything ? Its not only all up in there heads its an insult to the marriage ! I do not support porn I tell my husband if he wants to to feel and see the real thing get his azz in the bedroom ! Porn ruins and corrupts mens brains ! Like us women need to see some 12 incher just to want to have sex in bed ??. Dammit if I knew watching porn was gonna make my husband grow bigger then I might watch too ,,,until then I am satisfied and it serves noplno placemy household !And thatS you tell him ! besides telling him to grow the hell up and stop playing with his ding dong it already served its purpose andthat was to produce a child !CASE CLOSED

Honestly I've never had this problem, I've been married 3 months and my husband and I are intimate at least once every second night, be it intercourse or other things ;) I think it's important when you start marriage to let your partner know what you expect from that area. However we do have two nights a week that, no matter what, we have sex. And you know, even when neither of us really want it at first we ALWAYS get into it. We also keep it mixed up, have sex in different rooms or different ways. Oh and don't worry about the porn thing for now. It's porn. Unless the girls panties are hanging at the end of your bed when you get home, it's nothing. So let him know what you want from your sex life together, because this is for life and he should know what you expect. Keep a day or two a week that you have sex or do something intimate no matter what And keep it fun :) And if all that fails start playing with yourself in bed together and if that doesn't get him to turn over, honestly, presume he's a porn loving looser and leave.

Dani, it is obvious you and he like sex, I mean, you are 8 months pregnant and have been married for 4 months. If you are worried about the porn, watch some with him. Make it a couple thing and see if there is really any real problem with it. Then talk it over. Not all guys are addicted to porn. Most can take it or leave it. Be careful what you do and who you do it with.

Dani,

I'm assuming you have since had your baby. Congratulations! I want you to know that I completely agree with you. I feel that porn is not necessary, is a selfish indulgence, disrespectful and uses women as objects. I don't care what other people say about it. It is not a need, it's a want, and we all want a lot of things, but we're not animals and we have all learned that we can not give in to everything we want for reasons of healthy, love, respect, justice, morality, the golden rule, or whatever it is that guides us. I went through exactly what you did. He knew before we got married that it was a dealbreaker. We had a thorough discussion about it, and yet in the marriage, he said he lied and never did intend to give it up even though he said he would. He is remarried now, and I feel so much comfortable being who I need to be now. Even if I can't find a guy who doesn't look at, I feel that this is an issue of respect and justice. We have trafficking in our own US and you can't even read the newspaper without seeing women sexualized. Young girls are forced to feel that they have to focus on their sexuality. It just makes me sick. I told my husband I'd have sex with him any time, and he said he wanted porn and me. I want bacon everyday, to rob a bank, to smoke, to steal clothes, to drive over the speed limit, to eat cheeseburgers every day and to slash the tires of the person who took my parking spot, but I don't do any one of those things because I'm not a selfish person who expects to get every single thing I want and I do not want to cause any of the harm to myself or others that each of those examples imposes.

I think you need to relax. You are not having sex, he is taking it out in other ways. Would you rather him go out and bang real women? Porn is just images, start worrying when girls on there crawl out of the screen.

Is he still treating you with love and affection? do you feel porn is replacing the time you spend together?

It's really not a big deal. I hate to break it to you- but guys do mentally undress women they find attractive. It's not abt love, it's just how they are wired. Start worrying when he disrespects you by going out and asking for another woman's number.

Take care, stress is not good for your baby. He loves you, he married the woman he knocked up before the wedding. give it a rest.

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if nothing will change how you feel, then I guess you shouldn't have married him. Sorry, you get what you buy.

So, here's the main thing: you told him that you didn't like porn. Just because YOU don't like it, doesn't mean that HE has to dislike it or even not do it. You have to remember that your ex-husband isn't your CURRENT husband, and you shouldn't assume that watching porn always leads to be addicted to porn. Because it doesn't.

If it was a deal breaker, did you disclose that information in the very beginning? Aka: If you watch porn, I will leave you. If not, then you've got very little wiggle room.

The fact that you're trying to control him with what he does with his sexuality is sort of disturbing and gross. Are you going to start regulating his TV shows next too? His watching porn has nothing to do with you and your insecurities. (Porn making you feel insecure isn't his fault. They're YOUR insecurities.)

I think that you need to go to a counselor to help you with your issues with porn.

Ok so you don't want to hear it, well what did you expect, your not having sex with him bc your pregnant? sound like you need to grow up a little and give a little. Just so you know most guys are not Addicted to porn its just the source to help get a little when the one that should be having sex with them is not.

Since you had to throw out his porn then you already know how he feels about it. Just because one husband was a sex addict does not mean this guy is, too. You need to talk to a counselor. Really. You have some sex hang-ups and you are pregnant so you feel really bad. Please talk to a third party about this. It doesn't have to be the end of your marriage.

Men aren't all into sex with pregnant women. It's not uncommon. You may not want to hear any of this but it is the truth. To compensate for the lack of sex and desire due to your pregnancy he is viewing porn. It's not uncommon.

I think you should NOT be snooping and looking for it. I think you should understand that it's part of being at the end of your pregnancy. I think you should accept that he is an adult and he is a male and he has biological needs to take care of. Masturbation is perfectly healthy even within a committed relationship.

You are big, you are hormonal, you are snooping and creating this problem. It's up to you to be the bigger person and ride it out.

If only we could get rid of the word 'porn' and call it what it really is (90%) of the time, then you could say your husband was addicted to sexual exploitation, sexual slavery, and images of people more than likely coerced into this unfortunate plague. Then we could get to the real meat of the matter. "Its what guys do". Too right its what guys do. Why they feel a need and entitlement to look at other people in the buff is a creepy question best left to the psychiatrists couch.