Am I overreacting to this?

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So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months now. I love him and he loves me and all that good stuff. Now this is my first real relationship so I'm still trying to figure all this out.

The other night I was texting him like I normally do. He always hangs out with his friend Daniel so I told him to text when he's home cause I don't want to take away time from his friends. This night he told me he wanted to text because he missed me. I told him ok as long as he didn't take an hour to respond like he does when he's with Daniel. He said he wouldn't but after a few texts he took over an hour to respond. He owned up and said he would text me when he got home.

It had been about 2 hours and I had to go to bed so I texted him goodnight and that I loved him like I normally do. The next morning I hadn't gotten a goodnight message from him. He always says goodnight to me, and should have especially since he said he could text me when he clearly couldn't. He then texted me at 3 in the afternoon like nothing happened.

Am I overreacting to this, or should I be mad? I feel a little hurt seeing as how for one he choose his friend over me and couldn't even text me back at a decent time, then he didn't even say goodnight to me like he always does. Any ideas?

sederot · Accepted Answer

My best friend does that sometimes and it really hurt my feelings so I asked him about it and he said that sometimes he just forgets because when ur with a friend time goes faster than you realize. So like an hour can pass but it only seems like 10 minutes. If he didn't text you at night he might have been tired. The worst possible thing ever ever ever is to assume you know what is happening without having first asked him. If it bothers you try talking to him about it during a time when you are like together and its quiet and maybe cuddling or something. Say I wanna ask you something and tell him that you wanted to know what he thinks about texting. Tell him that you got worried when you text him and he doesnt reply. Say it more like about how it makes you feel instead of saying like it's all his fault because that might make him defensive. Keep it light and casual and I bet you will find out that you were overreacting, and so yeah I think ur overreacting :)

? · Answer

Yes , you are overeacting.
Technology can sometimes be a burden , before you start to critisize think of all the possible things that could have happened , which could have caused him to no text you back. 

1) His phone was on mute and the vibrate was turned off or unheard. 
2) He got tired fell into a deep sleep
3) His phone ran out of battery
4) Maybe he saw the text , then something happened distracting him , then he forgot to text back

Seriously many things could have happened. Its not like he did it on purpose. 
Also every now and then its good to not have someone glued to you asking you every 5 minutes what happening. 

He never said he chose his friend over you , but lets be realistic when a dude is with his friend or having a good time they can very easily forget to look at there phone or respond a simple text message , im sure he didnt mean it , and im sure he didnt think you would get mad which is probably why to him its as if nothing wrong has happened. 

Just tell him you texted him last night and got worried cuz he never texted you back , if this continues to happen just inform him you would like a little bit of attention cuz u simply care alot for him ....

Anonymous · Answer

please..just please talk to him about it, not in a nagging kind of way though just tell him what you typed here...''I feel a little hurt seeing as how for one he choose his friend over me and couldn't even text me back at a decent time, then he didn't even say goodnight to me like he always does''  He probably actually thinks nothing happened xD guys..sigh.
Its not that much of a big deal though just talk to him :)
goodluck!

Hermes · Answer

You are overreacting.  Sorry, but you are.

On the other hand, he should care and act accordingly - but you are overreacting.

Hermes

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