What if he's the perfect guy but he's overweight?

Maybe he isn't perfect after all. Whatever you decide, don't string him along. Fish or cut bait quickly.

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What if he's the perfect guy but he's overweight?

There's this great guy interested in me. He is so nice and fun. He's smart, ambitious, he's an eye doctor and just very easy going. I like his personality and I think he's cute but there's one thing.. He's overweight. He's 6'4 and naturally a big guy. If he lost...

I think the best answer to this is: if you are attracted to his personality, smile, and he is a genuinely nice guy. You need to go with that, go on a couple dates, see how well you do when your out together. I have a problem with superficiality myself. and I agree with someone said in one of their comments. He may be overlooking a flaw you have. I have many flaws I am sure. I am not skinny but I do work out regularly and try very hard to eat healthy. I have just met someone I am extremely attracted to his personality, he is cute, has a great smiile, his eye light up when he smiles. He is what I have been asking God for, finally I meet him, He is overweight but has recently lost 22 lbs because he got a scare from his MD that he is borderline diabetic and needs to lose weight to avoid taking medications. He has at least 50 more pounds to lose but he is working on it and now he has met me we motivate each other. We went on a dinner date last night. talked about healthy food choices, we both ate healthy dinners. afterwards we planned a walk in the park but it was raining. He suggested mall walking and we walked the whole mall. I am also a nurse and I teach my patients about diet/health exercise, diabetes education.etc..so he actually has met me for a reason and I met him for the reasons I asked God to provide for me. No one is perfect and I was also questioning what you are questioning. Since we continue dating, each time I fall for him more. Give it a chance and eventually you can talk to him and let him know you are concerned for him healthwise. Good luck

If you aren't really that attracted to him, then you would be doing him a disservice by dating him in the hopes that he would one day become attractive to you. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to certain body shapes/types (personally I couldn't care less about how big a guy is as long as he's awesome) but it'd be wrong to date a guy you don't find attractive. I would go on a couple dates, see if your personalities click so much that you find yourself falling for him, fat and all. But if you still think he's cool, but not attractive, leave him for the ladies that would love ALL of him. Just to clarify, I'm not calling you superficial! I hope this helps :)

I get sort of shallow too when it comes to guys weight, but there are always exceptions and things that can make up for it! He can always lose the weight but come on...you like him he's an eye doctor so he's got his head on straight and could support a family, you think he's cute so I don't see a problem!

If you decide to go out, make it going and doing something active like bowling, taking a long walk or something like that. A lot of guys will rise to the occasion and try to make a good impression so you will have time to see if he is a couch potato or if he just needs a little motivation. Don't mention his weight, he knows he is heavy and if he sees you are an active person, he will want to keep up. it isn't like he has already asked you to marry him, if he turns out to be the right guy, you will have plenty of opportunity to encourage him then.

What if you were brave enough to tell him to lose weight, and he actually did lose weight? Then you would have saved his life literally! Pounds can be lost. Don't let his weight be the reason you miss out on a great guy because there are NOT a lot of great guys out there! Get his fat *** to the gym ASAP!!!

Nobody's perfect...if you're not attract to that extra weights maybe some other will. You can help later lose that weights when you're that good of friends or marriage.

But don't ever judge people because of their appearance, obviously he has a good heart

if you really like him, you're going to have to look past the weight. If you think you can't, don't even bother.

Remember that if you date him and persue a long term relationship, there is a chance that you might be able to influence some healthy diet and exercise in his life but there's also a chance that he refuses to change his ways.

I would give him a go. If he really likes you then he will listen to you to make himself more healthier and a better partner.

I myself am going through this. I asked my family members what do they think. They felt the same way I feel he s everything you asked for so far so why? When I pointed out a guy in the store gave my cousin a few views and she noticed my face. The only way I can honestly deal with this is try it and if just if it bothers me like that let him go.

It is better to have an overweight nice guy than a perfectly built jerk. If you show interest in him, it might encourage him to lose some of the weight.