3 year old is playing up outside constantly?

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Hi I just wondered if anybody could give me advice please? My daughter is 3 she acts up but mostly it is out of the house to the point that I don't want to go out if she doesn't get to hold everything at the shop she throws tantrums or if she doesn't want to get off the bus she screams and sits on the floor I have to pick her up I am 25 Weeks pregnant. I always punish her she goes to her room and gets told off but it seems to be forgotten shortly after. She has recently started smacking at home me and her father which I don't understand as she does not live in a violent household she does not see such things on TV either I an scared she will be rough with the new baby also. She's very intelligent and advanced in speech for her age she's bilingual and can count. her tantrums are very loud and last 30 mins in which time she will sit down on the pavement, lay down, get red in the face from crying.

ME · Accepted Answer

At about two years of age, many babies exhibit a radical change of behavior, often including fits of bad temper known as tantrums. This period is so frustrating for parents that it has been termed “the terrible twos”! Suddenly, the toddler’s favorite expression is “No!” or “I don’t want to!” He may become frustrated with both himself and his parents as he struggles with his own conflicting feelings. He wants to be away from you, yet he wants to be near you. To bewildered parents, little seems to make sense, and even less seems to work. What is going on?

Well, consider the radical shift that has taken place in the toddler’s life. Until recently, all he had to do was whimper, and adults would come running. Now he begins to realize that his “rule” was only temporary and that he will have to do at least some things for himself. 

During this difficult period, parents should hold on to the reins of authority. If they do so in a firm but loving way, the child will adjust to his new role. And the stage will be set for further marvels of growth.

“Some parents feel that tantrums occur because they have made some mistake in dealing with the child’s demands,” writes John Rosemond in New Parent Power. “It stands to reason, if they are to blame for the child’s tantrum, that they must right the wrong as quickly as possible. So, having said no, they say yes. Or, having spanked, they then give the child more than he or she originally demanded, to keep their guilt at bay. These maneuvers work. The tantrum stops, the parent is relieved, and the child, learning that tantrums are a successful means of obtaining things, throws more and better ones.”
http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201307/how-to-deal-with-tantrums/

oscarsmom · Answer

One of my all-time favorite authors/psychologists on parenting is Dr. Kevin Leman.  He is funny, engaging, direct and his advise works!!  Here is an article from the non-profit I work for with a bunch of tips from Dr. Leman on dealing with our children and their misbehavior.  I hope it helps!!  http://bit.ly/182ggo0

sadguy · Answer

she spanks you cuz u spank her

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