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Nick
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Nick asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 8 years ago

Mothers day is coming up soon, but my baby girl doesn't have a mother?

Well she has a mother but she doesn't really deserve to be called a mother because a real mother is someone who bothers with their child.

So I'm 18, and I have a baby girl, her name is Courtney (not named after Courtney Love). Courtney is 17 months old, so she is still very much a baby. Courtney's "Mother" decided 2 days after giving birth that she didn't want anything to do with Courtney and she ran away, but her mother broke up with me as soon as she found out she was pregnant, so baby's mother has never been in the picture. I haven't been dating anyone because I want to do things right by my baby and I'm still at school whilst taking care of Courtney so having time for a relationship is out of the question.

So because baby hasn't got a real mother really, how does she celebrate mothers day? I know she is very young and doesn't understand pretty much anything but in a few years, she is going to wonder what to do on mothers day, I don't want her to feel left out for not having one, she doesn't deserve to be left out, she deserves the world and I really want her to be happy, so what can she do to celebrate mothers day?

Update:

Age doesn't really define being a baby she'll always be my baby girl so whatever, and she isn't even 2 years old so I am pretty sure that she'd still be classified as a baby.

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  • 8 years ago
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    The mere fact that you are asking this question let's me know your baby will be just fine!!!

    I grew up without my dad and I never felt unloved or like I was missing something. I had grandparents that were very involved so I was fortunate and I don't know your whole store obviously.

    When the time is right, ask her what she thinks a mother does. Then ask her to identify who she thinks does those things for her now.

    Sure, it won't be easy at times but as long as she is loved she will be fine!

    For this Mother's Day I would get her a card and write some things from the heart. Hallmark has cards for everything ;) Then, when she gets older, she will have something to look back on and realize everything is/will be ok.

    Happy Mother's Day to you! Mother or not, you are playing that role. Good luck!

  • 8 years ago

    first of all i just want to say how amazing you are, people always talk about dads running away and you are an amazing person to be doing all of this and sound like a wonderful dad. my partners mum done the same thing to him and his 3 other siblings when they were very young, there dad decided that on mothers day he would be called mom as he was being the father and mother to his kids, every year and my partner is now 24 he will send his dad a mothers day card etc, it sound silly to call yourself a mum for the day but it helped them celebrate that day without feeling left out, hope this helps a little x

  • ?
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    5 years ago

    I'd name your OB and allow them to be aware of, if you have a consistent headache it might be pre-eclampsia, are you swelling bad to? Sounds such as you could have one of the vital symptoms. It is normal to think just a little yuck earlier than labor for some ladies, however for me, i've three girls and felt satisfactory every time. Simply get checked out and contact and speak with the nurse, better risk-free then sorry! Excellent luck for your new angel!

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    If your Mom, Aunt, Friend, any girl, etc is someone special in her life, let her make a drawing and give it to them. Mother's Day isn't just for Moms. It's for Grandmas, Aunts, and any other special women that a girl or woman looks up to.

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  • 8 years ago

    My kids dont have a dad, but my best friend Jameer is going to celebrate it with them ( they are only 8 months and one isnt born yet). You could have your mom, grandma, cousin, friend, ect. celebrate it with her. Also, you could turn it into a fathers day. good job btw for raising your baby alone, i know how it feels!

    Source(s): Also an 18 yr old single parent
  • 8 years ago

    Mothers day is approaching huh :) ummm..nick its sad to say but she gonna be okay u know that. aww..i feel bad for her , and i love amy :) courtney will one day have a mother who cares for her

  • 8 years ago

    Is your mom around? She could celebrate with her Grandma.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You don't have a baby girl. 17 months is well into toddlerhood.

    She can send a card to granny.

  • 8 years ago

    Her grandma or just someone who she cares for.

  • 8 years ago

    Her grandmother could be like her mom

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