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7 year old disrespectful help?
Our 7 year old has always been very defiant border on disrespect but in the last while it's bowled over to being full disrespect. He talks back, he tells his sister of for screaming in a tantrum, he has to have the last word and when I place him in his room because of his behavior most time he flips and the tantrum are crazy. He screames like a madman, he gets so frustrated that it's scarry and when he's like that he is difficult to calm down. Iobvious try to curb his attitude and try to make him think about what he is saying and to treat others as he would like to be treated. I also got books about being nice, they are very positive books. We are also talking about positive thinking because he keeps saying that he can't. He can't calm down that it's our fault. That he can't be nice, that he can't be respectful. We calmly tell him that we believe he can calm down and when he does we praise that he did calm down in the end, When he is nice, we try to catch him in the act and tell him how proud of him we are for being nice and same when he is respectful. I don't know why he is negative but we also are trying to teach him that he decides if things frustrates him or not. That his view is very important.
If he wants he can choose that what we say is bothersome and move on instead of being disrespectful or start screaming tantrums. Still we have much disrespect and back talk towards us and our daughter. He's more respectful of my daycare kids but is having some issues at school too.
We are open to different ways to help him learn to control his feelings and respect toward himself and others. Please share your view and ideas. Thanks.
OH ps. TAking priledges away does but a temporary dent. He did end up going to bed early yesterday but not sure if it'll do any difference. He's had to spend the evening in his room, didn't do much either. We are unsure what else to try.
We did try the spanking in the past and it only made things worst like someone said it made the incident worse. So spanking is no go and I prefer it that way. We do have very strict discipline and do not tolerate his behavior. We have some alone time with him every night where he chooses an activity. Same on weekends where we have time we spend individually with each child. He does crave our attention but has to learn to share it as well.
I was just looking to see if some out there actually had another alternative but seems most are on the old adage of a good beating. What do we teach kids when they are spanked. That they have to submit or be beatened. I was scared of my father growing up. I didn't respect him I feared him and I don't want that for my child plus how can you tell your kids don't be a bully don't beat people up be nice and turn around and spank them when they aren't nice then wonder why they don't listen to you and are mean. He has always been h
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- KukanaLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Do NOT under any circumstances take notice of those who tell you to hit him - that's abusive, and is pretty much guaranteed to make an angry child even more angry.
It might be worth considering ADHD or similar disorders, since by 7 most children have outgrown this kind of behaviour, which is quite normal in strong-willed toddlers. It's also worth looking carefully at his diet, since many foods can cause intolerances that mimic ADHD-like behaviour. I know of one little girl, for instance, who becomes rude and disrespectful and also quite hyper if she has more than the tiniest amount of sugar. I know a boy who is intolerant of dairy products, which make him completely uncontrollable. You might want to keep a food diary to see if you can see any patterns - or else look at what your son particularly craves. If he always wants desserts or sweets, it could be a sugar intolerance. If he drinks two glasses of milk straight down at a meal and asks for more, it could be a dairy intolerance. Children often crave what is bad for them.
Obviously you should also avoid any kind of junk food - anything containing artificial sweeteners, colours or flavours, for instance, and anything with MSG.
- You may be rightLv 78 years ago
I saw a movie once with some disrespectful kids in it and they got straightened up quick when the grandmother had a little talk with them, it was called Tyler Perry's Madea's Big Happy Family
- ?Lv 58 years ago
I say pull his pants and underwear down.
Turn him over your knee and give him a good hard spanking on his skinny bare bottom.
With a wooden hairbrush.
He needs to know disrespect will never be tolerated.
- Anonymous8 years ago
Respect towards a human? Violent miserable fools
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- ?Lv 58 years ago
I think he's way too reckless. You need to be a little more strict with him. He needs some good lessons to be taught. Scaring him could be a good technique to control him. If necessary, give him a little bit of beating and slapping. It might sound harsh but it can be an effective technique to control such reckless kids.
Source(s): Experience - TiLv 78 years ago
Blah, blah, blah. A child's public behavior is a reflection of his parents.
Why is he misbehaving. Is it for lack of attention? Maybe start giving him the attention he craves away from his sister. Maybe some alone time with him would help.
- 8 years ago
Nothing a good butt pounding won't cure. That's why he's like that. No discipline. Time to start.
ADHD isn't real. ADHD = Adults Do Hate Discipline
- 8 years ago
It's called a chancla. Or belt. Or wooden spoon. Or the end of a broom. Or anything really, I'm just naming what mexicans use. Just smack him when he gets out of line.
