Im having confusing emotional problems?

You know, it could be as simple as some food you ate that didn't really get along with your system, or your hormones flaring up. Don't take it so seriously. Just remember, "this too shall pass." We all occasionally have times when we feel stressed or depressed that we can't explain.

You just need some good tools to help you calm yourself. Hard exercise is one. Go for a good hard run, or hike, or even go for a long walk. Or put on some music you love and dance when nobody is looking. Or get a punching bag. Or trampoline/rebounder. Or go for a swim. Any kind of exercise that gets your heartbeat up can help with stress and tension. Two other great tools are meditation and affirmations. You can find a lot of good stuff about those on the web and on youtube.

Sometimes we just need to be grounded so getting your hands in the dirt or your bare toes in the mud or grass can be very calming. A barefoot walk on the beach is like magic. Getting out in nature is good for our souls. Gardening does it for lots of folks. All this concrete isn't good for us.

When we smile and laugh, our brains release feel good chemicals. When we pout and frown or think negative angry thoughts, our brains release feel bad/sad/angry chemicals. So put on even a fake smile and laugh as often as you can and that can do wonders to improve your mood. Ditch the sad music and people-dying-of-cancer movies and opt for upbeat entertainment. Smiling at everyone you see will not only improve your moods, but also do wonders for your social jitters.

You know why angels fly? 'Cause they take themselves lightly.

Okay - I'm not a certified psychoanalyst, but it sounds like you need a temporary, quick fix at least until your exams are over. I hope what I say here works for you, but if it doesn't don't take it to heart because I'm not necessarily right.

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Memory - especially subconscious memory - is a big part in deciding what presses our buttons.

When our memories try to take our minds to certain places where we don't want to go, it could be that our subconscious body is trying to tell us something.

What is the connection between a significant other and a professor marking your finals? Well, one possible connection is *judgment*. In both cases, it involves a situation where someone else is *judging* whether you are good enough or not, be it as a boyfriend or as a student. Why is it not a nice feeling to be judged? Because being judged means that someone else is in a position to press our buttons and hurt us. This feels especially bad if you cannot predict or understand why or if they will judge you badly. Life will feel random, and a random reality feels threatening because it makes us feel that we will be hurt unpredictably at random times. When life feels random, we feel we have no power, because theoretically we can eat and still be hungry, sleep and still be sleepy, wear two jackets and still be cold, wear no cloths and still boil, study and still not know anything, be a really nice guy (which I think you are) and still get rejected, etc. Not knowing when and what kinds of judgment will come creates a sense of randomness, and randomness is what can make us sad.

In fact, it can be said that social anxiety itself essentially boils down to "feeling the pain of judgment."

But then we ask ourselves, why is it that we feel SO MUCH judgment-related pain? This MUCH-ness of the pain itself seems to be NOT random... so maybe life is not random after all! Realizing this fact can be the humble beginnings to a process of coping and healing. Whenever you see something random, especially if it's something painful, think about what is NOT random behind it. And if what's behind that still feels random, think about what is NOT random behind THAT.

Thinking about these questions can give you a chance to self-diagnose your self... not just what is wrong with your psychology (i.e. what is your fault) but also more so what is wrong with your sociology (i.e. what is NOT your fault.) Once you start to focus on what is NOT your fault, and you get into the habit of doing that, then the next step is to focus on *fixing the problems that are NOT your fault.* This essentially creates mental situations where you are in the judging position, and not the judged position.

In other words, stop the apologizing mindset, and adopt a blaming mindset. (Sure, this is a radical suggestion.) That doesn't necessarily mean to be a jerk - it means that whenever you feel you must apologize top others, stop and blame yourself instead. Whenever you continuously feel others must apologize to you, stop and blame them in your head instead. These things will not change your behavior much at the onset, but it might begin to change how you feel.

And no matter what calamities happen, blaming the right things will always keep an apologetic person going.

Don't be to anxious, she may be one of those girls who is constantly studying or hanging out with friends. Try and see if you can plan something for the future. As for finals. Just take a deep breath and concentrate on doing well. Do a calm activity or a sport on the weekends to keep your mind off of these things. Or even possibly you coul seek a counselor. It's the last thing you would want to do, but it really can help.

Maybe you just wasn't in the mood to go out to a consert with people. The situation w\ ur gf and the final might have overwhelled you a little, and felt like you needed to be alone somewhere quiet to calm down. Crying, and sleeping, (and usally music 2) helps depression to fade. If you get depressed again, talk it over God maybe too?