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So i've recently gotten a bigger tank for my red eared slider turtles so im gonna put my old 10 gallon tank to use as a freshwater fish aquarium. For starters, im gonna get some plants for it. I'm thinking java moss is a good one to start with because from what ive read it doesnt require CO2 injections or tons of light.

So im wondering is there a specific order I should introduce animals to the habitat? Plants first, fish first? Same time? Are feeder goldfish fine for starters before I buy some non-feeder fish for it?

What will I need in the tank with it when I plant it? Like what does the plant feed on or does it just self sustain off of the water?

Does putting java moss in the aquarium mean there's any certain creatures I cannot put in the tank because the java moss would make them sick?

Any other pointers would be appreciated.

I'm doing a project on Americans who've converted Buddhism. If you happen to be someone who has would you mind filling out this brief 10 question survey for my class project? I'm an anthropology student in college.

https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/TN78G2F

I know about the Korea War but after that it seems like there's nothing known about whats going on there until kim il sung died in the 90s.

Im in college and I met this girl two weeks ago at a super bowl party. We connected instantly and hung out one on one afterward. A few days later we hung out again and ended up making out for a good 20 minutes straight. She wanted to take it farther than making out but i stopped her and said that I like her and would rather take it slow and she agreed with me. We both got really busy and didnt see each other again for almost a week (this monday). I told her I wanted to take her out to dinner on Valentine's Day and she said no and proceeded to explain herself.

I've been replaying this over and over in my head so I dont remember her exact words but she made these basic points.

-had a 5 year relationship end out of the blue over text in summer 2012 and thats still got her a bit scarred.

-doesnt want to force any sort of relationship because she feels that if two people are meant to be together it will happen

-I asked her if that meant that something was possible in the future and she said its not impossible but I shouldn't have my hopes up too high.

-Said that im by far the coolest guy she's met since transferring here in the fall and said she really wants us to be friends, then clarified she legitimately wants to be friends and isnt just saying that to get me off her back.

I've never been in a situation like this before so I really don't know what to do. She's the first girl i've had actual feelings for since I got cheated on last spring so i havent been able to get over her yet.

I'm studying computer science so there's not exactly any girls in my classes and i work on the weekends so i cant go to parties. I've got nowhere else to meet other girls and it feels shitty not having any potential girls. So until someone new comes along I want to be doing the best I can to get unfriendzoned. I understand its unlikely but I need something to be optimistic about until someone new comes along.

Im in college and I met this girl two weeks ago at a super bowl party. We connected instantly and hung out one on one afterward. A few days later we hung out again and ended up making out for a good 20 minutes straight. She wanted to take it farther than making out but i stopped her and said that I like her and would rather take it slow and she agreed with me. We both got really busy and didnt see each other again for almost a week (this monday). I told her I wanted to take her out to dinner on Valentine's Day and she said no and proceeded to explain herself.

I've been replaying this over and over in my head so I dont remember her exact words but she made these basic points.

-had a 5 year relationship end out of the blue over text in summer 2012 and thats still got her a bit scarred.

-doesnt want to force any sort of relationship because she feels that if two people are meant to be together it will happen

-I asked her if that meant that something was possible in the future and she said its not impossible but I shouldn't have my hopes up too high.

-Said that im by far the coolest guy she's met since transferring here in the fall and said she really wants us to be friends, then clarified she legitimately wants to be friends and isnt just saying that to get me off her back.

I've never been in a situation like this before so I really don't know what to do. She's the first girl i've had actual feelings for since I got cheated on last spring so i havent been able to get over her yet.

I'm studying computer science so there's not exactly any girls in my classes and i work on the weekends so i cant go to parties. I've got nowhere else to meet other girls and it feels shitty not having any potential girls. So until someone new comes along I want to be doing the best I can to get unfriendzoned. I understand its unlikely but I need something to be optimistic about until someone new comes along.

There's a girl i've hung out with several times now we're both in college and at home for the summer (i go to school an hour away she's at the community college). We've made out a couple of times but because of a both of us being busy and a family vacation i havent seen her in almost 2 weeks. During that time i havent been able to get her out of my mind so i'd like to tell her how i've felt in the past few weeks and take the next step towards a relationship.

What would be a good way to do it? And should i follow it up by asking her on a real date (like out to dinner)?

Im getting a background check for a job and just filled out the application. 7 months ago i was caught by the police possessing a small amount of marijuana. I was written a ticket, it was basically a parking ticket but on the ticket the reason was listed as "other" rather than speeding, parking, etc. I paid the ticket off on time but will my possible employer be able to find out about this?

I have to write a research paper for my European History class and i have been intrigued by the topic of the Soviet Gulags during WWII. Im not sure where to begin with researching the topic. Does anyone know some good books on the subject i can check out?

The past few months i've been filled with anxiety and its been hard to cope but i managed it just fine. Now starting last Friday the anxiety shifted to depression. I just finished school for the year so i should be feeling a sense of relief and ready to enjoy 3 months off from school. But im feeling a strong sense of pessimism. Anytime i remember a memory from the past rather than looking at it with a sense of happiness i feel nothing but sadness wishing i could return to that moment when i wasnt so miserable.

Exercise isnt helping me, talking about it isnt helping, spending time in the sun isnt helping....i dont know what to do. I really dont want to feel this miserable for the entirety of summer...

Sorry its a bit of a long story but i figured more detail, the better anyone can help

I used to suffer from really bad social anxiety but a few months ago I managed to overcome it rather quickly once I new what my problem was and how i could solve it. Now just recently i've had anxiety return in a different form.

Earlier this week i asked a girl out (first time ever because of previous battles with social anxiety) she said yes but kept pulling the "im busy card" that whole situation was making me quite anxious. Meanwhile its also finals (im in college) so my stress and anxiety levels are really high. Friday night I was at a concert, which normally kills any stress or anxiety i may have. But I felt mentally out of it at the concert then afterward felt completely miserable for no reason, normally i get a sort of euphoric mental "high" after concerts. The next day my anxiety was replaced by depression, every time a memory of the past was triggered in my mind i felt ridiculously sad and kept longing to return to life at that moment because I didnt feel as miserable. It wasnt just for the reasons i became anxious either. Normally listening to music helps reduce stress/depression but when i tried it i honestly felt worse. I ended up just laying down on my bed and crying. I hadnt cried in a good 2 or 3 years. Once I finished crying I felt a lot better. Depression was gone, anxiety was down but a general feeling of pessimism lingered. Went to a party with some friends that night, alcohol killed the lingering pessimism/sadness/anxiety (i know alcohol is bad to use to cope, i dont drink often)

Now here i am the next day, i feel slight anxiety and still pessimistic and im scared i'll have a repeat of yesterday's absolute misery at some point. I really want to know what exactly this was. Was it like a mental breakdown or something? Im not looking for anyone to solve my problems i just want to know exactly whats happened

Sorry its a bit of a long story but i figured more detail, the better anyone can help

I used to suffer from really bad social anxiety but a few months ago I managed to overcome it rather quickly once I new what my problem was and how i could solve it. Now just recently i've had anxiety return in a different form.

Earlier this week i asked a girl out (first time ever because of previous battles with social anxiety) she said yes but kept pulling the "im busy card" that whole situation was making me quite anxious. Meanwhile its also finals (im in college) so my stress and anxiety levels are really high. Friday night I was at a concert, which normally kills any stress or anxiety i may have. But I felt mentally out of it at the concert then afterward felt completely miserable for no reason, normally i get a sort of euphoric mental "high" after concerts. The next day my anxiety was replaced by depression, every time a memory of the past was triggered in my mind i felt ridiculously sad and kept longing to return to life at that moment because I didnt feel as miserable. It wasnt just for the reasons i became anxious either. Normally listening to music helps reduce stress/depression but when i tried it i honestly felt worse. I ended up just laying down on my bed and crying. I hadnt cried in a good 2 or 3 years. Once I finished crying I felt a lot better. Depression was gone, anxiety was down but a general feeling of pessimism lingered. Went to a party with some friends that night, alcohol killed the lingering pessimism/sadness/anxiety (i know alcohol is bad to use to cope, i dont drink often)

Now here i am the next day and im scared i'll have a repeat of yesterday's absolute misery once the last of the alcohol leaves my system. I really want to know what exactly caused that whole episode of ridiculous depression, pessimism and crying.

We're both in college and are in the same history class. Having never spoken to her before she came up to me while studying in the library and asked a few questions about our final (which was the next day). I asked if she wanted to study together so we did for a few hours (half of the time was us just talking about other stuff...she even brought up flirty and somewhat sexual stuff). So then once we were finished i walked her back to her dorm and along the way back i told her that all year long i've thought she was pretty cute and seemed like a cool person. Then I asked her if she'd like to get coffee together after our final the next day.She said yes, we exchanged numbers.

I texted her after the final and she said she was gonna take a nap then we could go. She didnt text me back until almost 9pm and apologized saying she slept a lot longer than she thought. The next day we planned to get coffee in the late afternoon. When i texted her asking if she was ready to go she said she had just gotten coffee and lunch with some of her friends. Later that day I see her in the library again and she comes up to me and apologizes for blowing me off and says she's just been ridiculously busy lately and will continue to be for the next week which would be the start of summer break. She's staying on campus during the summer and i only live 30 minutes away so I suggested we meetup during the summer and she seemed cool with that idea.

So here's my question...is she genuinely interested and just really busy (understandable for finals week) or is she unintentionally leading me on and avoiding me because she isnt interested? I really thought we connected well when getting off topic while studying and she even told me how when she's been at bars guy have asked her if she'd like to dance and she's straight up said no...which makes me think she'd straight up say no when i asked her to coffee if she wasnt interested

The fact that she apoligized in person makes me think she is interested but im still second guessing it a lot

We're both in college and are in the same history class. Having never spoken to her before she came up to me while studying in the library and asked a few questions about our final (which was the next day). I asked if she wanted to study together so we did for a few hours (half of the time was us just talking about other stuff...she even brought up flirty and somewhat sexual stuff). So then once we were finished i walked her back to her dorm and along the way back i told her that all year long i've thought she was pretty cute and seemed like a cool person. Then I asked her if she'd like to get coffee together after our final the next day.She said yes, we exchanged numbers.

I texted her after the final and she said she was gonna take a nap then we could go. She didnt text me back until almost 9pm and apologized saying she slept a lot longer than she thought. The next day we planned to get coffee in the late afternoon. When i texted her asking if she was ready to go she said she had just gotten coffee and lunch with some of her friends. Later that day I see her in the library again and she comes up to me and apologizes for blowing me off and says she's just been ridiculously busy lately and will continue to be for the next week which would be the start of summer break. She's staying on campus during the summer and i only live 30 minutes away so I suggested we meetup during the summer and she seemed cool with that idea.

So here's my question...is she genuinely interested and just really busy (understandable for finals week) or is she unintentionally leading me on and avoiding me because she isnt interested? I really thought we connected well when getting off topic while studying and she even told me how when she's been at bars guy have asked her if she'd like to dance and she's straight up said no...which makes me think she'd straight up say no when i asked her to coffee if she wasnt interested

The fact that she apoligized in person makes me think she is interested but im still second guessing it a lot

We're both in college and are in the same history class. Having never spoken to her before she came up to me while studying in the library and asked a few questions about our final (which was the next day). I asked if she wanted to study together so we did for a few hours (half of the time was us just talking about other stuff...she even brought up flirty and somewhat sexual stuff). So then once we were finished i walked her back to her dorm and along the way back i told her that all year long i've thought she was pretty cute and seemed like a cool person. Then I asked her if she'd like to get coffee together after our final the next day.She said yes, we exchanged numbers.

I texted her after the final and she said she was gonna take a nap then we could go. She didnt text me back until almost 9pm and apologized saying she slept a lot longer than she thought. The next day we planned to get coffee in the late afternoon. When i texted her asking if she was ready to go she said she had just gotten coffee and lunch with some of her friends. Later that day I see her in the library again and she comes up to me and apologizes for blowing me off and says she's just been ridiculously busy lately and will continue to be for the next week which would be the start of summer break. She's staying on campus during the summer and i only live 30 minutes away so I suggested we meetup during the summer and she seemed cool with that idea.

So here's my question...is she genuinely interested and just really busy (understandable for finals week) or is she unintentionally leading me on and avoiding me because she isnt interested? I really thought we connected well when getting off topic while studying and she even told me how when she's been at bars guy have asked her if she'd like to dance and she's straight up said no...which makes me think she'd straight up say no when i asked her to coffee if she wasnt interested

The fact that she apoligized in person makes me think she is interested but im still second guessing it a lot

We're both in college and are in the same history class. Having never spoken to her before she came up to me while studying in the library and asked a few questions about our final (which was the next day). I asked if she wanted to study together so we did for a few hours (half of the time was us just talking about other stuff...she even brought up flirty and somewhat sexual stuff). So then once we were finished i walked her back to her dorm and along the way back i told her that all year long i've thought she was pretty cute and seemed like a cool person. Then I asked her if she'd like to get coffee together after our final the next day.She said yes, we exchanged numbers.

I texted her after the final and she said she was gonna take a nap then we could go. She didnt text me back until almost 9pm and apologized saying she slept a lot longer than she thought. The next day we planned to get coffee in the late afternoon. When i texted her asking if she was ready to go she said she had just gotten coffee and lunch with some of her friends. Later that day I see her in the library again and she comes up to me and apologizes for blowing me off and says she's just been ridiculously busy lately and will continue to be for the next week which would be the start of summer break. She's staying on campus during the summer and i only live 30 minutes away so I suggested we meetup during the summer and she seemed cool with that idea.

So here's my question...is she genuinely interested and just really busy (understandable for finals week) or is she unintentionally leading me on and avoiding me because she isnt interested? I really thought we connected well when getting off topic while studying and she even told me how when she's been at bars guy have asked her if she'd like to dance and she's straight up said no...which makes me think she'd straight up say no when i asked her to coffee if she wasnt interested

The fact that she apoligized in person makes me think she is interested but im still second guessing it a lot

Ok this girl is confusing me, here's the situation...

We're both in college and are in the same history class. Having never spoken to her before she came up to me while studying in the library and asked a few questions about our final (which was the next day). I asked if she wanted to study together so we did for a few hours (half of the time was us just talking about other stuff). So then once we were finished i walked her back to her dorm and along the way back i told her that all year long i've thought she was pretty cute and seemed like a cool person. Then I asked her if she'd like to get coffee together after our final the next day.She said yes, we exchanged numbers.

I texted her after the final and she said she was gonna take a nap then we could go. She didnt text me back until almost 9pm and apologized saying she slept a lot longer than she thought. The next day we planned to get coffee in the late afternoon. When i texted her asking if she was ready to go she said she had just gotten coffee and lunch with some of her friends. Later that day I see her in the library again and she comes up to me and apologizes for blowing me off and says she's just been ridiculously busy lately and will continue to be for the next week which would be the start of summer break. She's staying on campus during the summer and i only live 30 minutes away so I suggested we meetup during the summer and she seemed cool with that idea.

So here's my question...is she genuinely interested and just really busy (understandable for finals week) or is she unintentionally leading me on and avoiding me because she isnt interested?

The fact that she apoligized in person makes me think she is interested but im still second guessing it a lot

Me and some friends want to rent a house for somewhere between 6-10 of us this summer near Sleeping Bear Dunes in Michigan. We're all college aged so we dont have a ton of money. Can someone point me to a good source for finding affordable places?

So i've found myself midly addicted to kratom. I've been dosing up everyday for the past two weeks. About every other day for the two weeks prior to that. I realize that addiction is bad thing and I would like to stop. However, I went cold turkey with it today and felt exhausted and had a headache all day. I assume this is the withdraw. I would suck it up and deal with the effects for a few days to break the addiction, However, im in college and there's 3 weeks left in the semester and I cant deal with the exhaustion and headaches while making the final push for keeping my 3.5 GPA.

Basically im looking for reassurance that if i continue until the school year is over i'll still be able to quit with only mild withdraw

So I went on a first date with a girl (we're both freshman in college at a school in Chicago) and we connected really well and im pretty sure she really likes me too. Only problem is she plans on transferring to Ohio State (she's from Columbus) after this year. We've got a month left of school then she'll be permanently 6 hours away. So is it worth it to try and start a relationship? I feel like if i dont i'll regret it and it'll kill me on the inside all summer. The other option is to try a relationship in the last 5 weeks of school and see where we stand when the years over but im nervous i could get overly attached in that time period.

Ive never had a relationship longer than a month in high school so pretty much anything of this regard is uncharted waters for me. Any advice from people with experience?

So I went on a first date with a girl (we're both freshman in college at a school in Chicago) and we connected really well and im pretty sure she really likes me too. Only problem is she plans on transferring to Ohio State (she's from Columbus) after this year. We've got a month left of school then she'll be permanently 6 hours away. So is it worth it to try and start a relationship? I feel like if i dont i'll regret it and it'll kill me on the inside all summer. The other option is to try a relationship in the last 5 weeks of school and see where we stand when the years over but im nervous i could get overly attached in that time period.

Ive never had a relationship longer than a month in high school so pretty much anything of this regard is uncharted waters for me. Any advice from people with experience?