Breaking up with my girlfriend?

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So I've been going out with a girl for a while now and we've gotten extremely serious in a short time. It's a long distance thing and I travel a lot to go see her (which is bloody expensive). It was really really nice for a while but now we always have arguments over incredibly stupid things and she sets double standards constantly which drives me insane. She also has very little trust in me, if I talk to another girl and she finds out then she will want to see the fb conversation and will inevitably find something I said that was too friendly (ascii art for example...apparently this ":P" is flirting). Anyway... I hope you're intrigued so far lol

She absolutely loves me despite the difficulties we have in getting along. So it makes breaking it off seem like the most painful thing in the world right now. I'm not so up in space that I don't realize that it's hard for everyone but that kind of advise does nothing to help whatsoever and everyone who has told me that so far knows quite well that it's a whole different story when you're in the position yourself.

So I know that this relationship is terrible, but I refuse to be rude in breaking up. Even though she's a complete tw@ I know quite well that she is vulnerable as hell and she's going to be devastated and shocked. I've hoped for a long time that she would break up with me because of one of the arguments but it never happens and I feel that I'm being a complete sh*thead for not just telling her.

So tell me; how does a savage like me go about a civil break-up like you fine people? :D

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ah, you poor guy! Sorry, totally uncool, but really, that sucks so much it's almost funny.

Ok, number one rule is honesty. The worst thing you can do is be less than honest to save her feelings. You know how girls are crazy? We are. You have no hope of anticipating how she's going to take this, so just be totally upfront and honest. Don't give her false hope that things might work out, it'll just make it harder for her to accept and move on. Don't try to be too polite, but don't be cruel.

Also, don't think that she won't survive without you, you probably aren't the best thing that's ever happened to her, so don't feel too bad for breaking up with her. It's life.

Don't make a big production out if it, just say it.  Have fun with that.

Sgtc · Answer

It's never easy. I have been the one to dump the other person everytime with only one exeption. You just tell them politely that you arent happy in it anymore and you think its time to move on. Somebody always gets hurt in a break up so dont focus on that, focus on just getting it over with, like ripping a bandaid off.

Anonymous · Answer

Know exactly how you feel!!!! My most recent ex. So annoying, unfair and overreactive. I would suggest just asking yourself if you're actually happy. I know for me in the homestretch of dating her it just seemed like a hire talking to and dating her. I'd let her go with a phone call (seems fair cause long distance) just be honest an concise. P.S. That's uncalled for that she's reading thru your msgs.

Leon · Answer

Long distance can be tricky, and some suspicion is to be expected. Just be really honest and always agree for a little while so she can calm down a bit. Then take it from there.

? · Answer

I think you should have a conversation in person. If you can't meet her in person call her and give her the negative reasons(very little trust,double standards, etc.) then just say the relationship is causing you more grief than happiness and you can't be involved with her anymore. Say sorry, then...thats it lol

Anonymous · Answer

Be a man, you pity her, dating someone vulnerable like your girlfriend, you're only cheating yourself. Like above, discuss your worries with her. Good Luck.

? · Answer

Honesty is the best policy. Tell her you need space/ want to see other people/ focus on work/school and you don't foresee it working out. This is something you have to work out on your own :P

Oh crap, I flirted, my significant other is going to kill me, gotta go

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