Why do religious people believe that you should wait until you're married until you make love?

The act of sex is an act of marriage, a bond which can never be broken.

Not only from a religious standpoint but I just think it is more meaningful. If you only have sex with one person you won't know what 'good' sex is and the sex with your spouse will be great because you truly love them. I wish that more people would save them selves for their wedding night.

Also, if a man has a small d***k, so what! Did you know, when you have sex, you can only feel a certain point of it anyways? Sure a guy can go deeper if he is longer but any man can make kids (unless other conditions play a part) but o would rather have sex with a man with a small d**k that I love than sleep dozens of men that I don't truly love.

And we do believe in divorce, we just think that broken relationships can be fixed if you don't just marry for sex or sexual activities. Of course, serious things like abuse would end in divorce whem necessary but if you spend enough time getting to know a guy not physically, the relationship will be better/last because it doesn't all revolve around sex.

Yep. If you're a girl, the biggest and best reason to wait is that most woman's bodies seriously are not ready for sex (as in fending off HPV -- yes, the cervix is still going through changes and can fend off HPV better when it matures) until mid 20's. Other reasons would be, you can't get pregnant (and trust me, even giving birth at 25, it's STILL a big task to manage!) With the rampant STD's out there, I'm glad I waited for my virgin husband. We're both clean and have nothing to worry about! No having to put off until his herpes aren't flaring up. Only people who have to worry about finding someone who 'does that one thing they like' are those who have had previous sex partners before. With a virgin partner (and yourself being a virgin) you get the wonderful experience of both being novices and finding out what each other like and believe you me... it keeps getting better and better! The reason most choose marriage as the line for being acceptable is that they KNOW the person's going to stick with them. You've got more in common when both wait. Marriage is the 'binding contract'. When you start having sex "when you're an adult who can handle it if you got pregnant" -- there's no assurance that "the right person" will stick with you... especially if there is the possibility of a baby on the way. (A baby can change a person in a heartbeat -- either for the better or worse!) Not saying everyone will ditch, but the marriage contract is just more assurance... you can't get a divorce because, "she got pregnant. I wasn't in it for the pregnancy." (and any court who agrees to dissolve a marriage on those grounds... shame.)

If a person were to look at this objectively (rather than by the emotions and passions), we would see that illicit sexual behavior leads to a lot of pain. It adds to jealousy, broken homes, broken families, social breakdown, dysfunctional behaviors, instability, lack of marital faith, aborted children, and all kinds of other stuff, not to mention disease.

This is easily verifiable, even without religious argument. You end up with jealous husbands, crimes of passion, children left in horrifying situations, and so on. I've seen and lived through enough personally painful situations (both with my parents, in my own life, and in thousands of stories) to realize that sex and love are powerful things, and when left unmanaged, can be destructive. Scripture says 'shall a man put fire in his lap, and think that he won't be burned?'. I'm not a prude, just a real guy who has seen enough pain from this whole thing.

Would you want to marry somone who is a virgin or somone who has had numerous sexual partners,several STD's possible pregnancies and perhaps a host of other problems. This is why sex is a gift from God for those in the Sacrament of Marriage. If both people go into marriage as virgins one does not have to worry about std's or pregnancies or what have you. Remain chaste and wait until marriage, you will be glad you did.

Catholic Christian †

Picture your first breakup. Did you have sex with your first boyfriend? Sex is a hormonal thing, and releases attachment hormones. It makes breakups uglier and you dirtier. If you want to have a stable family, statistics just plain aren't in your favor if you've had multiple episodes of extramarital sex. It's even worse if you have a fatherless child running around.

God's word states that ALL sex outside of marriage is fornication...and those committing it are on the same level as wrongdoers...

(1 Corinthians 6:9) What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who lie with men,

The same level as homosexuals...wicked people...

(Psalm 37:9) For evildoers themselves will be cut off, But those hoping in Jehovah are the ones that will possess the earth.

(Psalm 37:29) The righteous themselves will possess the earth, And they will reside forever upon it.

(Nahum 1:3) Jehovah is slow to anger and great in power, and by no means will Jehovah hold back from punishing. In destructive wind and in storm is his way, and the cloud mass is the powder of his feet.

(Numbers 14:18) ‘Jehovah, slow to anger and abundant in loving-kindness, pardoning error and transgression, but by no means will he give exemption from punishment, bringing punishment for the error of the fathers upon sons, upon the third generation and upon the fourth generation.’

ALL TOO CLEAR...

I say make love not war. And never take a vow to forsake all others, never forsake anything! Religions like to repress our sexuality and act like it isn't natural. We are supposed to live and hide in guilt and shame so that they can control us and make our chakras out of balance. Now religious people, on the whole have no problem with war.

Because they believe God disapproves of pre-marital sex.

Loving someone is more than just the sex isn't it?

The act of copulation is a special bond that should only be shared with two people. Once coitus has been performed, you will know your spouse in a way that no one else on earth ever will which brings you two closer as individuals.