Dressing my 8 yr old tom boy?

I understand you not wanting people to think she has to wear her brothers hand me downs. That is where you have to compromise and talk to her about instead of basketball shorts, how about we try these shorts? My daughter was the same way at that age, it's so funny hearing you talk about it because my daughter is older and is all about the dresses and cute clothes now and I never thought I would see her dress like that but it's true that when they are young, some girls that age don't like the tight fitting clothes or feel uncomfortable. When my daughter was your child's age, she loved T-shirts that had longer sleeves, so we would go into the boys TH (Tommy Hilfgr) section and she would act like we were shopping for "Joey"...

My daughter is now 23 and just got engaged to a wonderful man she met at college, watching her try on wedding gowns, makes all those memories even more special.

I wish you luck and Take care, Robin

Just let her choose. Having had a tomboy daughter and her having her preference in boy's clothing, I know there are a lot of things she wouldn't wear. Yours might not be the same, but anything even the slightest hint that it would be tight, she would refuse, as she your refuse anything pink or bright purple or anythig with a flower print and dresses.

Contrary to Sandra's case, mine isn't a lesbian. I'm just saying this in case you get some sort of fear or whatever. Her dressing in boy clothes could be because, firstly, it's more comfortable, and secondly, she might have the idea that girls are weaker than boys, which is not true. She she wants to feel strong and be comfortable and that's that.

Anyway, in my experience, I don't think your daughter will want to wear any of the clothes Favorite_Aunt suggested, except perhaps some of the last link (and let her do so with her basketball shorts). Also, like someone else already said, don't make her feel bad that they call her a boy because she dresses a certain way, just say it's no big deal what other people think.

Let her dress in what she wants, but do it in a discrete way. There are some clothes that are not gender specific, so she should try to stir towards maybe those clothes, i.e. tracksuit bottoms and generally exercise clothing. I'm a boy and i wear everlast shorts. They aren't the most masculine or the most feminine, so in that respect, they're perfect. Mind you, instead of distilling in her the feelings that those people who call her a boy aren't to know she's a girl, distil in her the feelings that it is her choice to wear what she wants to wear and more importantly what she feels comfortable in. I am, by no means, a fashion victim and I'm a 16 year old boy :-)

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Let her wear what she wants. You need to STOP caring what other people think so much. If you try and change your daughter, you are only going to end up with nonstop fighting and chaos. So let her wear what she likes, there is NOTHING wrong with it.

my granddaughter is just starting to fill out and she sits with her arms folded all day because she is embarrassed i think all girls are self-conscious at this age. don't force the issue or she'll probably go the other way, as she gets older she will probably want to buy pretty cloths and makeup

I had such a daughter and she was like that from day one. I let her do her own thing since that is who she was. I always knew she was unique and of course she is gay. I would like to add that she went to college and became a big city police officer and is very happy with her life. You just have to let them be who that are programed to be and enjoy their uniqueness. I know I do, I wouldn't change a thing.

She might like something like these

Faded Glory Girls' Assorted Tanks and Shorts, 4-Pack

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Faded-Glory-Girls-Assort...

Monster High Girls Better In Black Graphic Tee (paired with jeans or black shorts would look nice)

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Monster-High-Girls-Bette...

Disney - Girls' Awesome Mickey and Minnie Mouse Graphic Tee (paired with black shorts)

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Disney-Girls-Awesome-Mic...

well this is her lifestyle, i would say let her live it if she wants to.