Is love better the second time around?

A little unfair for me to answer as my first wife was a real nut; a genuine sociopath. We were married very young, I didn't see it, and it tore me up for far too many years. Things were so bad that I've gotten rid of everything from that relationship (except the wonderful relationship I enjoy with my sons) and I'm doing my best to make believe it never happened.

Now I'm with someone who I not only love so deeply, she knows how to love back. And it's wonderful.

The reality is that by the time you're on to a second marriage (I'm in my 50's), you've finished becoming the person you are. You understand yourself better. Life has taught you want you want and what you don't want. By this stage in life you're just more likely to find that right match for you.

well i'm not divorsed but i try to put my self in everyones situation that i answer on here i am 21 and have been married 3 years and have a 2 year old do i think it is possible to love more than one person yes i do you would still have to be around your first husband and some people may miss that person however some would have complete hatred for the first husband i guess it depends on the situation and how long you were together how well you knew them when you got married the first time and how well you know the new guy in a way i think if you were hurt in the first marriage you will always be hurt with that person to a point but if you come out of that marriage still trusting the opposite sex you can have a better marriage with the next one you fall in love with

I am much more in love, and attracted to my second husband. I have children with both of them. That was strange at first though, having a child with another man.

I was miserable most of my first marriage. He wasn't bad to me, I just felt like I was missing out. We weren't friends, we really didn't understand eachother. We were 18 when we married, that could be why. I had barely dated before him. So, I was happy to finally be done with it 12 years later.

I compare things sometimes in my head. Things my current husband says and does that I don't like, and I think to myself - my first husband would've never done that, or said that to me!

I love my first husband, but more like a friend. I care about him, but would never be able to think of him in a sexual way anymore.

So, yeah, I think it totally can be better the second time around.

Hi there - I appreciate your willingness to share your story and the emotions you were courageous enough to share in this post.

Here's an interesting article that might answer some of your questions, especially if children are involved - http://bit.ly/14jXOpn?refcd=88704&p=1157699. The article is titled "Remarriage and Blended Families" put out by a non-profit family ministry where I work.

Hope this helps!

Second time around is better at first, but often worse later on. Hope it's not your case. Cheers.

Overall it's better. I made all my mistakes with my first wife.

well my second spouse is my first spouse.

how do i feel. i miss him.

Love sucks. Get a life.