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Is my girlfriend unreasonable?

So she's had my facebook password for a good while now and I didn't mind until our last argument, after which I changed it without telling her (I admitted that I at least should have told her but that's as far as I went. I said that I wanted some of my privacy back and to that she said "there's no privacy in a relationship" and I disagreed bluntly.

Anyway, do you think it's unfair that I took away her ability to check my messages and so on or should she not be mad at this at all. I feel I'm right in every respect except that I didn't let her know that I was changing it... so the kind of advice that would help is the kind that let's me see it from her point of view (even if it's the case that you think she is wrong)

So give it your best shot people, what's your opinion? :D

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  • 8 years ago
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    A little bit of mystery is nice. I wouldn't expect my boy friend to give me his Facebook password or his bank account number - nor would I give him mine. We both enjoy our privacy. He doesn't need to know when I shave my legs or what shade I color my hair. I don't care to know every site he visits on line. Trust and respect for each other is part of what makes a good relationship solid .Best of luck to you.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Your girlfriend is not being unreasonable, but neither are you. First of all, unless you both plainly agreed with the idea, she should not have had your Facebook password in the first place. I think that couples in relationships should have a degree of privacy. Both partners should be honest about what they do on the Internet and who they talk to, but they should still have their privacy. Facebook is a place to talk to friends and family and she does not need to see every conversation you have with them.

    As long as you are both committed and loyal to one another, I do not see a problem with having secret passwords. She has probably been cheated on before or has cheated herself, which is why she is so obsessive. You need to have a serious talk with her and explain that is unhealthy for her to be suspicious of you. Without trust, there is no love. Without love, what the hell are you doing in a relationship anyway?

  • 8 years ago

    U definitely have a right to have ur full privacy, she is unreasonable about no privacy in a relationship.... A relationship stinks faster when there is no little privacy ... U have the right to ask for ur privacy back... I don't think she should b mad for this

  • 8 years ago

    I think it kind of depends what sort of relationship you're in. Are you young, and recently bf/gf? Or has it been going on a long time and this is "the one"? If the former, you can do whatever you'd like and she needs to back off. If the latter, you're kind of missing the point of a real relationship. So it's a bit of gray area, to me.

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  • 8 years ago

    ur in a relationship that means trusting each other not lack of privacy; she should trust u enough to know that u wont sex talk anyone and same thing goes for u but yes u should have told her but again it is ur rite to have ur privacy

    Source(s): me
  • 8 years ago

    I think your girlfriend should accept your want for privacy but maybe you should talk to her about why she is paranoid and does she give you her password

  • 8 years ago

    She's not your wife, she's your girlfriend. Until you're serious with each other I don't think she should have access to that. Sounds like she's trying to control you, or has trust issues.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    well to randomly change it is a bit weird. I feel like she's wondering now whats happening now that you decided to do that and maybe that you're hiding something.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You guys don't trust one another. Fix it.

  • 8 years ago

    your compltly right... your gf is psycho

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