how do we get intimacy back after his affair?

as a young woman who's been single her whole life and never had a boyfriend, I gotta say it's kind of sad how marriages/relationships have to split up not because of practicality/compatibility issues like money and stuff but because of trivial stuff like attraction/sexuality that could be resolved long ago with maturity on both sides. But the reality of these situations may be different and it might be a good idea to start fresh. However, I do agree with you that cheaters can be rehabilitated. This man really needs to man up and I hope this taught him a lesson. If you two have no other problems, you can give it a go and maybe get him help? Time is the best healer. Only you can see if he's truly sorry. If you give him a chance, give him one chance only, because if he does it again...

Why would you even want intimacy with a cheater? Trying to catch an STD off him?

Ditch this bozo and go get yourself a new stud. You deserve it.

hahahahahaha you are giving a cheater a chance

lol and you think he respects you now?

U dont! U move on to find someone who deserves u! Leopards CANNOT change their spots!

It's sad to say this but if you are working on rebuilding your marriage, you will need to bit the bullet and just back into it...how about going into meditation and think about how much you love him, memories that made you want him regardless. It will not be easy to do but if you are willing giving it a go land really believe all, It will work out but if you can't what about seeing a professional counselor to assist you while you travel this journey of yours. I know how it feels, the look, the smell and the words that come out his mouth you imagine it's her he sees, he feels and call out her name. No depending on what he told you, how he d tells the whole story. It will tell you if he can be trusted and if you should walk away. Men only do what we allow him to do so look inside your heart and you soul and see if this is worth your heart...

Maybe with counselling.

He is a cheater! Your body is reacting correctly. You mentally and physically feel betrayed. Why would you want to try and make it work. When he was the one that cheated. What are you getting out of this screwed relationship, SECURITY- nope since you can't trust him. LOVE- nope since he loved another person other than you. TRUST - nope since he betrayed your trust. HOPE - nope since he stole that from you when he slept with another woman. Gee whiz, but I just don't see what you are hoping to accomplish. He mess it ALL up! You deserve someone you can love and love you fully. You deserve a faithful partner. After all you were faithful to him. You deserve happiness, but with his unfaithfulness, he has only given you tears, sorrow, unhappiness, sadness. Hey he got his cake (that's you) and he got to eat it (that's her the other person.) Why couldn't that cake and eaten included you in both situations. He will only give you grief and you aren't even married. How can you ever expect him to be faithful should that ever happen. Good luck.

once a cheater always a cheater, its time for you to move on sista!