Have you ever had an envy that made you shake; made you sick; made you dangerous?

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I've just realized that nemesis and arch-enemies are real. You see, I had been confused about my feelings for this person for a while, but I'm on summer break and I hadn't known how relaxed I was until the mere mention of this person's name made me shiver and shake with envy. Then I realized that this is what true hate felt like. My foe and I are very similar in terms of hopes and dreams, but very different in ability to carry them out, he's got the talent to do all that, and I have to go through classes and try extremely hard and still fail. He does deserve the fame he strives for, he doesn't even appreciate the attention he gets now, but I do. He just recently made a college decision in the city I was targeting and I dreaded the thought of being in the same city again, the school we're in now can barely hold our chaos, and I realized that we have the "this town ain't big enough for the two of us" situation. I feel the need to destroy him, because I know that it's the only way I can be satisfied with life again.

Socrates2 · Answer

The resentment impulse in this one strong is.
At a minimum you have the self-awareness to intuit something is not right and you seek help. Good.
Focus on yourself, your dreams, your ambitions. Just as your "nemesis" focuses on his/her goals, desires, ambitions and dreams. For all your nemesis knows, you DON'T exist. Your envy/resentment are completely irrelevant to him/her...
Set your goals, YOUR standards. Never make ANOTHER person's standards and ambitions yours. That will only consume you with self-hatred and will lead to failure. Focus on YOUR talents, your strengths. Work on your weaknesses. 
Why do you have X aspirations? Because your "nemesis" has them? Not good enough! Have YOUR aspirations and dreams because they fill YOUR mind with delight. Get over this obsessive "rival" and move on. Challenge yourself to become the best YOU that you can be. Not the best OTHER. That path leads to self-loathing and a boat-load of misery.
Seek therapy.
Be well.

Clearasblue44 · Answer

Once college starts you will definetly have a different view on him because you will be busy trying to work your butt if just like everyone else. And it may not be such a bad thing because it may strive you to be better academically.

? · Answer

No, wow I feel like I'm that person you speak of. 
My "best friend" and I had a similar problem.. I no longer speak to her because she became very nasty. :(

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Have you ever had an envy that made you shake; made you sick; made you dangerous?

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