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Saki
Lv 5
Saki asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 8 years ago

Respect for elders vs... creepy old men flirting. Help?

I am so confused... I'm 20, nerdy, not pretty, I have lab classes so I can't wear anything but long sleeves and pants, and I'm usually quiet. I don't see how I could be attracting anyone! For some reason I've been getting stopped often by older men (50+). Talking, flirting, asking for my number... Just generally behavior that makes my inner teen still want to scream "I need an adult!" but I can't.

I usually just say something like: no thank you sir, I'm not looking for a boyfriend, etc. But in the case of a few more persistent individuals, how am I supposed to respond? I've always been taught to respect my elders, but when I say no, I mean NO. How can I politely tell an older man to just leave me alone?

This is really awkward and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Any ideas?

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Saki,

    I feel your pain! "Nerd" or not, we all get hit on by creeps. I really don't like confrontation, so I find it much easier to say, "Sure, here's my number! 920-452-7729" You can use that number too. It goes to Dial-A-Prayer! And they can take it however they want to! ROTFL!

    You can substitute any local number... your local mental ward, psychiatrist, even the pizza shop! It'll get ya out of the situation and maybe they'll get the hint!

    Source(s): Been there done that! http://www.dial452pray.org/
  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    A man who flirts with you and asks for your number doesn't think of himself as an "elder", so you don't have to treat him any differently than any other man you're not interested in.

  • 4 years ago

    I artwork in retail. Cashier. 2 older adult men come as much as me and as I'm doing my job. One asks if i might ever evaluate marrying his chum. recommendations you they looked like they have been of their 50s and that i'm 25. I didn't understand what to declare yet I felt humiliated. and that they theory i replace into blushing coz I cherished the assumption or i replace into being shy yet my face turns purple as quickly as I'm frightened and that i in simple terms felt disgusted!! I've under no circumstances had a boyfriend under no circumstances flirt with adult men so as to have my first adventure with 2 previous under gents replace right into a brilliant sadness!!! :( one stated my face replace into incredibly purple and apologized for making me uncomfortable however the fool nevertheless stored forcing his flirting on me and that i didn't say plenty. in simple terms smiled and that i felt relieved while they left. I felt like puking and distinctly much had a panic attack.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    A very very easy way.... just make yourself that you don't hear!! it works great!!

    And hey!! don't think that you are a nerd...!! Start to see in yourself a pretty girl!!

    ENJOY life

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  • dude
    Lv 6
    8 years ago

    Simple:

    Let them finish talking then say

    "You what?

    You remind me of my grandfather"

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