Why does Jaycee Dugard and the Dugard family still shun Jaycee's step-father, Carl Probyn?

I don't know if the term 'transference' is correct, but its easier to have negative feelings toward him than to aim it at the father of her daughters.

Also, the Probyn's are seperated, not divorced.

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Why does Jaycee Dugard and the Dugard family still shun Jaycee's step-father, Carl Probyn?

Why do the Dugards still shun Jaycee's stepfather, Carl Probyn? It has been proven that every word he told the police about the kidnapping was true. The descriptions of the car and Nancy Garrido were spot on. It is now a known fact that he did everything possible to try and prevent Jaycee's...

The Probyns are still not divorced after all these years. I have never heard that before. I assumed he had found another woman by now. Most people don't live alone but many pretend they do but most pretenders are on some type of welfare. The whole case is weird. A lot of people separate when there are huge medical bills so they can get medicaid but continue to live together. I can see where it might be possible they never did separate. There may have been a lot of peer pressure and pressure from social workers to get rid of Carl because he was a prime suspect all those years. Could be typical step family drama. I also don't believe everything people say in their tell all books. They want to make money. The truth don't always make money.

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This is what I wrote about this back in mid-2011:

"I hope someone gives Carl this message: I don’t know you, but I pray for you often.

I’ve read “A Stolen Life”. The attitude Jaycee has for Carl is what SO many children have for a step-parent. The difference in this case is that, while most kids go on to have a relationship through the growing-up years, and eventually bond with the step-parent, Jaycee didn’t. So she still has that 11-year-old attitude toward Carl.

As I read the book, I saw a transformation in Jaycee’s attitude toward her abductors…she actually seemed to come to care about them. That’s what happens when you spend time with someone. But Jaycee didn’t spend time with Carl, so she still has that little girl attitude toward a step-parent.

Carl, I hope that someday, maybe as Jaycee learns how hard it is to be a parent, and how easy it is to not know exactly the right thing to do, and how a child who you love thinks that you’re being unfair and mean, she will see you as the person you are — an imperfect human being who didn’t know exactly how to deal with a child who thought you were coming between her mother and herself.

But the choice is hers alone to make…nobody can MAKE her see. Carl, I’m just praying that, if you don’t already, you’ll come to know your Father in heaven who loves you truly."

Now to my thoughts about this subject in late 2015: It's sad to see that nothing seems to have changed. I feel awful for Carl Probyn. I sure hope that his daughter, Jaycee's half-sister, stays close to Carl. I search for information once in a while, and at this point I wonder if he's not just "out of sight, out of mind" for the rest of the family. I read that he said that the relatives of his estranged wife(or ex-wife...I don't know the status of the marriage at this time) blame him for Jaycee not trying to escape from her abductors. It's all so sad for him...he's being blamed for things he had no control over!

No body mentioned the cruelty that the stepfather Carl showed toward Jaycee, he was not loving to her at all….step dads often are a problem to step children by not respecting them or loving them…..he was mean and I for one am happy that Jaycee's Mum and Carl separated. He doesn't deserve them in his life

I think it is very sad that the family still shuns him. However, yes, I am sure Jayce resented him when her mother married him and he was trying to be a "father" figure for her. He was trying to get her to be responsible. He seemed like a very good family man. She also has a half-sister that she said in the book that she was having a difficult time getting to know. If you think about it, life went on for everyone. They thought of Jayce every day and Jayce thought of her people every day, but she had to survive and take care of her girls. So now it I like she is coming into a whole new world and getting re-aquainted with mom and friends. She probably just feels too over whelmed to include Carl, who she resented when she was 11. It is sad though. I really wish she would try and have a step daughter-father relationship with him and let him be a grand pa to her girls. And then again, she could be leary of all men. After all, she was abused by Phillip all those years.

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People are always so quick to point their finger even though there is no evidence to support their accusations.

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