memories of those who've died?

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I have a song or time of day, month or year that has to go to family members who have passed. Is that normal? When police found my dad dead due to self inflicted carbon monoxide, Only The Good Die Young was playing in his truck. Weird yes. After my grandpa died my grandma had a digital clock that would read 'goodbye' if the batteries were low. When we walked into the house after the last visit to the nursing home, it said 'goodbye'. 
Yes, people look and reach too far into things. And there are also those people who say its nothing. 
Tributes.com gave me a chance to talk about my grandma. But I'm the only one posting and it makes me sad because she had a world of love. Dolina Maude Burdick. Tributes. Can you look it up and tell me if making small lists like this is healthy or not?
And while you are there, it's free if you want to look up someone yourself:)

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http://www.tributes.com/show/Dolena-Maude-Burdick-91254884

Dolena Maude Burdick
October 27, 1925 - April 12, 2011
Kenyon, Minnesota

Sorry for your loss.  She has a good obituary and the memory entries are touching.  Regarding the clock and the music, I have some similar stories myself, but I feel this is your space, so I won't enter them here.

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You seem to be very sensitive and receptive to other people's feelings so you are aware of these coincidences about the song and the clock. If you think there is a connection that your Dad and your Grand-dad and you can detect, that is very special, very unique, and it means you will be able to cherish those thoughts. Most people are not aware of this kharma or spirituality. Consider it a gift for you  to be connected to those who have passed.

Mags · Answer

There is nothing wrong with remembering the dead and we all do it in our own unique ways.

My mother died 2 years ago and every now and then something happens and I think "I'll have to ring mum and tell her about that" and then suddenly remember I can't do that because she isn't there.  It's a weird feeling and sometimes upsetting but we all do things similar to that I feel.  It is far better than totally forgetting them.  I'd hate to think that I'd be totally forgotten by those who actually met me and knew me.

robin · Answer

I played piano for years at family parties  and if I hear an old song I see the person singing it,sometimes I am happy reminiscing but so sad other times.Many of the songs are so old

Dorothy C · Answer

Anything that you do to remember the dead is healthy-  as long as it doesn't interfere with your going on with your own life.  What's most important is that you keep adding to your own memories.

RB · Answer

Many of us tend to have memories of those that have passed, and things do trigger our memories. Some do as you do and others don't. As long as you don't dwell on it all of the time you are OK.

Anonymous · Answer

My condolences on your losses.

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