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My Roommate Has Feelings For Me: How Do I Shut It Down?

I've been living with three other roommates for a little over a month now. One of them is my sister, another is her best friend, and the last is a guy. They all went to class together and are 8 years older than me.

About a week ago, my guy roommate expressed that he had feelings for me and I immediately shut him down (for a number of reasons). I had just left for vacation and I told him that I didn't want it to be awkward when I got home, then he promised that he'd never make a move on me and that everything would be normal.

I knew that was going to go down the drain as soon as he got drunk, and I was right. He texted me while he was out and made some comments that made me a little uncomfortable since I don't return his feelings at all, and I know he has at least one restraining order on him, if not two, from girls he was after or had dated. (If I had known any of this prior to moving in, I wouldn't have been okay with living with him). I was curt and to the point, but I doubt he'll remember it when he gets drunk again.

I know I have to shut him down harder if I really want him to leave it alone. BUT I'm living with him for the rest of the year, so I can't do anything that will really make this whole situation worse. If all else fails, I can get him kicked out but I'd like to hold off on that as long as possible. How should I go about it? How can I REALLY shut him down so he stops making advances?

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    hmm sounds difficult. Well I went through that with some one myself and I think you need to talk to your sister and her friend about it. (if you already have not done this already) And also try again to say you are completely uninterested and if he keeps getting drunk and advancing on you, you will be forced to kick him out. Or you could always get a partner of your own. I hope this helps and wish you good luck.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    8 years ago

    You could just unplug him.

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