Hate feeling like this, not sure what to do...?

First, I think something that often happens to us all is that when we perceive we are being rejected, for whatever reason, we begin to question our self worth, as in, "If he doesn't want me, there must be something wrong with me. I must have some flaw or be less somehow".

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Not knowing this man, I certainly can't say that what he is doing has any sinister undertones, but I can easily see why you would be confused.

I do think that it sounds like he is fond of you, perhaps so much so that he cannot be emotionally honest for fear of hurting your feelings, but yet not so much that he wants to continue romantically.

He also could be somewhat holding out hope to you because he fears losing you completely and thinks he might want more at some future date.

I assume that there was sexual intimacy involved in the week end. I have absolutely no moral judgement to make, but I do have a practical one. When sex is introduced too early in a relationship, I believe it can derail the natural progression of affection and attachment so that one or both partners may then begin to judge the connection by the sex rather than the quality of the emotional compatibility. It also refocuses the emphasis on the physical rather than the emotional, sometimes circumventing a very important stage of attachment and coming to know one another as human beings. I can't say that happened with the two of you, but I think it's possible.

He IS sending some mixed signals. I would always pay more attention to actions than words, so if he is saying he cares but seems to be avoiding you or not making time for you, the latter would be more important to me than the former.

It might be a mistake to continue daily communication. There is nothing wrong with saying to him that his actions don't match his words and while you value the relationship you have built so far, you are not willing to be batted back and forth while he makes up his mind.

YOU need to take the reigns here. YOU need to decide what would be best for your life. Don't make the mistake of thinking that you have no control over your feelings or that if you let him go you're making this huge mistake. His present behavior really doesn't bode well for any future you might have together. He seems to not even know his own mind and it would be particularly tragic to wake up on day married to him and find he is again weaving back and forth as to his feelings.

I think I can pretty safely say that if he is completely all in emotionally with you, nothing, and I mean NOTHING, would keep him in this confusing state of mind. Whether he is keeping you in the wings "just in case" I can't tell, and trying to guess his motives is of nearly no use at all, but being miserable is enough reason to pull out of it until such time as he becomes less erratic in his intentions OR you feel strong enough about your own worth not to need this kind of uncertainty.

It's NOT about you. It does seem to be about a man who has little regard for what he is doing to you and even less self awareness.

I would cut off the daily communication, see him on rare occasion if you like and can do it without a hurtful emotional investment that makes you feel crazy in between dates and just explain you're not interested in this back and forth interaction.

SEE OTHER MEN. That is so key in getting your confidence back and not feeling as if it's him or nothing. It most certainly isn't. And the less you focus on him, the more you will come to understand yourself to be a lovely woman with everything to offer the right man, and that may very well not be this guy.

Whatever you do, don't let him decide your future. Don't wait around for him to choose you. It will be far better for your self esteem and your happiness in general if YOU choose yourself by moving on to other possibilities.

The more power you put in his hands, the less there is in your own... where it belongs.

I think maybe it's just bad timing, he's not grieved his past relationship yet, maybe you should let him