I am attracted to guys but I don't like the thought of 'doing stuff'?

First, I just want to say that I have a lot of respect for your situation and your post. As well, you're clearly well spoken and articulate, which makes it a pleasure to read. So, first, thank you for sharing your issue.

Second, I'm a guy. And I'm a guy who happens to be disabled, and as such I have to deal with a separate plane of additional concerns which sometimes effects the way I believe I view myself, and, the way others view me as a result. I offer this information because I think that first of all, you should accept that who you are and what you like and do not like is okay. It does not mean you are afraid or that you need to be changed or fixed in any way. To me, the fact that you find a man's penis to be unappealing is, firstly, not terribly uncommon and secondly, an intriguing issue. On one level, I believe this may be part of your personality, and though you might wish to be 'normal' -- a sentiment I can share in some ways-- you don't need to be. It's not a wrong thing to feel uncommon or be different.

Still, to some degree I think this issue isn't so rare:

I think a lot of women probably don't find a penis that attractive, and as such, struggle with things like oral sex and the like. Some women who feel the same as you that I know, have managed to get over it and allow their partners to get their sexual pleasure with them anyway, but just don't engage in the touching or visualization of the penis. That is, they just let the man engage in intercourse with them and no more... to put it forwardly.

Now, I'm not sure that that is something you should strive for, because, again, I do not believe you need to be 'cured'. That said, what I am suggesting is that perhaps there are, eventually, some ways you can overcome or compromise your concerns. There is hope, in other words.

Next, I would ask if there ARE things you are attracted to in a man? Are there things that might be able to get you in the mood for intercourse with a man? His eyes, personality, interests, whatever? Or is the thought of sex altogether 'revolting'? Secondly, I'd ask: Are you attracted to women? I know you say you are attracted to men, (save for their penises), but have you ever thought of women? Been drawn to them? Perhaps you have a complex sexual palette, where certain aspects of any human are attractive to you, and certain ones are not, which is nothing to correct.

Lastly, I would just say that I find your personality to be refreshing, and that there is nothing wrong with wanting no part of what you perceive to be a scandalous culture in which we live. There's nothing wrong with not 'fitting in'. Many people have a plethora of issues which differentiate them from the rest, and I feel yours, in some ways, is not an issue.

Of course though, I understand that you would like to be without your revolt of the penis, epsecially for men you like. Perhaps you can keep things simple? Just engage in outings, kissing, other displays of affection with a guy who isn't pushy-- and take things very slowly, and just enjoy the relationships you do have? You may also just not be into sexual expression and sexual acts and simply find more solace in sex-less relations. That is not 'wrong'. It may just be...you.

I know I ask more questions than I provide answers, but I was moved by the implications of your issue and just wanted to share in the conversation, state my respect, offer some considerations and wish you well.

there's nothing wrong with it but know that you should immediately tell any guy you're interested in. A lot of guys won't be able to handle it but I think if you allow a guy to fulfill his sexual desires with other people, it would be okay. I know that sounds kind of wrong, because it's basically like cheating, but a guy needs sex and he needs to get it from somewhere. I don't think a guy could really have a life completely devoid of sex.

But as for you, there's nothing wrong with it. There is something wrong with envying pregnant teenagers. you don't need sex and it's perfectly normal for a woman not to be interested in it. Just be sure that you work out some kind of system for the guys you end up with because it's pretty wrong to forbid them from having sex forever, no matter how much he loves you.

There is nothing wrong with you for not being sexually attracted to men. You could just me hetero-romantic and asexual; that means you are romantically attracted to men, but not sexually attracted to anyone. You're not alone!

You could always become a Fag Hag.