Am I justified in feeling this way?

His decisions were childish and selfish and definitely showed poor judgment. That said, with 10 years invested in this man, it seems that your options are rapidly diminishing??

Unless your anger can be used to motivate you into some positive outcome- -it will just fester and turn inwards.

Yes, you are justified in feeling like that, he just used up "your" money, meaning the money that you two use to live off of- to me that would be a sign, if he would of just been a little less selfish, and had a nice birthday that was not going to put you guys in debt things would be fine. Decisions should be made together, I and know from personal experience that sometimes, one or the other person weighs heavy on the money (they tend to be more frivolous) I have given up so much, just because my husband, is not good with money at all, and sometimes I just have to blow off steam, and I get pissed, and let him know how I feel-I usually get over it but sometimes it takes a while-I feel the same way that you do- ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS- give him the ultimatum or whatever it is he need to change, see if he does, if he does not change his actions, then re visit your situation, and decide what is best for you. Give him another chance to prove himself 10 yrs is a long time, to waste. I think that you owe to yourself, but at any time you start to feel that he is not considering your wants and needs then you might have make a change that benefits you.

No, you are not justified.

Decisions we make are the best decisions we are capable of making at the time.

Seriously, have you ever decided to make the wrong choice on purpose?

He valued (emotional value NOT financial worth) the stereo system more than you did, he is allowed to value things different than you.

Oh my Gawd.

You are justified 100%.

I hate it when people who are supposed to be adults act like ******* children.

You guy knew that he needed that money for actual IMPORTANT car work, and instead turned around and bought a toy, which he BROKE, which also broke your guys car EVEN MORE.

Tell him to get his head out of his ***, and grow up.

Sit down and talk to him.

Let him know how you feel, and let him know that you can't deal with his immaturity.

Hopefully it will help smarten him up.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over again expecting a different result each time. This guy will never change, he is a loser and you're just enabling him to be a bum. Get him out of your life before he drags you down with him.

This question belongs in the singles and dating catagory and not here.

sounds like trust issues to me, people who wont marry dont trust,