How are you treated in the family you have married into?

Well...

Do you want the honest truth?

The truth may hurt you.

The truth is, this "man" doesn't love you. That's why you've been only his girlfriend for the last 9 years. If he loved you, he would have married you years ago. Now please don't go off about how "we don't need a piece of paper" and all that crap. Because you do. And your situation shows it.

Here's part that's even more depressing...

Even if he married you tomorrow, you still wouldn't be accepted.

Why?

Because he doesn't love you the way he's capable of loving a woman and his family knows it.

You don't know him the way his family does.

And trust me when I say, there's a woman from his past who he loves. Still. Even while with you. He loved her in a way he could never love you.

Men are players etc. But for the most part, even though they can't keep it in their pants, they generally truly only love one woman an a time. They might cheat or treat her like crap, but she's "the one" and there is no other woman who could ever be loved by him to that magnitude.

You're not that woman.

And his family knows it.

I'm sorry.

I was treated like crap until I proved that I worked hard, made money, and did not ask them for anything... then once kids came along, I was the Son in Law of all time!

Maybe they don't realize it. Talk to them