My Guy Roommate is Offended That I Won't Drink Alone With Him?

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This guy roommate is about 8 years older than me. He's told me he likes me and I shot him down, and when he asked if I would drink with him after-bar, I said no because it was just going to be him.
Now, I firmly believe that a guy's friends are mirrors of who he is. And ALL of his friends have come onto me when I drank with the group. Even the married ones. I learned not to drink alone with ANY of them within the first two weeks living here.
Not to mention my roommate had a restraining order against him from his ex (had I known this prior I wouldn't have let him live with us). 

Am I overreacting or am I right to avoid drinking alone with him?
Should I not have said it so bluntly?

Anonymous · Answer

You did the right thing. Obviously he wants you to drink because he wants to get in bed with you. Never drink alone with a person you don't trust. If he is offended then let him be. He's a guy so obviously he wants you. If guys keep coming ionro you then tell them to back off or you'll leave or something. Leave them and don't look back. I'm sorry if my advise doesn't help but I hope it all works out. Don't drink alone with him and you aren't over reacting. You did the right thing. :)

Anonymous · Answer

You did a right thing. No offence here. You just told him that you don't feel comfortable drinking with him alone. which is perfectly fine. Just forget it and try to be normal with him. He will get over it soon. St the same time, be cautious and observant as you already know his past.

? · Answer

You have the right to enforce your personal boundaries, and you did.  Good for you.  

If he likes you he does - but i think he's just fishing for convenient sex.  (not that there is anything wrong with you, but there you are living in the same place as him, so it would make his life easier, if you see what i mean).

He sounds like a total idiot and so do his friends.  They are disrespectful.

Liza2 · Answer

Not only would I avoid drinking alone with him I'd avoid living with him.

yoda · Answer

You did the right thing. Who cares what others think, if you feel you are not safe, and don't want to be around someone, then that is your choice to make.

Anonymous · Answer

Well you live with him but are afraid to drink with them. I don't think it's too big of a deal but if you feel uneasy about it stick to your guns and don't do it

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't drink with them cause they only want one thing they want to get you drunk enough so you can't do anything about it

Anonymous · Answer

Get a can of mace. Get several and hide them around your home.

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My Guy Roommate is Offended That I Won't Drink Alone With Him?

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