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My Anxiety is Affecting my Relationship?
For the past month, my anxiety has gone out of control (anxiety attacks everyday, constant crying, signs of depression) and I've been leaning on my boyfriend for emotional support. We've been together for 8 months, but have been friends for over a year, and I go to him about everything and he does the same with me. We have a good relationship in terms of communication, and feel like we can talk to each other about everything.
Lately though, I've been easily stressed out by things like my health and my boyfriends health as well. He's stressed out by my anxiety, and it's gotten to the point where his stress has physically manifested itself into mostly heart/chest pain and fatigue. Now his stress has become my stress, and whenever he tells me about what sort of pain he's in, it aggravates my anxiety and i get very anxious. It seems like a vicious cycle has formed between my relationship and my anxiety: anxiety putting strain on the relationship and my strained relationship aggravating my anxiety.
For about a week, I've been feeling depressed because if all the stress, and my boyfriend hasn't been able to cheer me up as he usually does, and I know that's because of my anxiety. It seems like I can't be helped, and I'm starting to blame myself for the tension between us because if it weren't for my anxiety there wouldn't be strain in the first place. Its gotten to the point where I just don't want to talk to him sometimes, and when we do talk I'm easily annoyed by him or become extremely emotional. We've even brought up the idea of breaking up, which neither of us want because both of us want to stay in each others live and have promised to work through hardships together no matter what. I love him so much, and he loves me, but I feel like there's so much strain on our relationship its hard to stay positive and work through our issues.
What should I do? How can the strain go away and why do I feel so easily irritated by him? Please, I'm so frustrated and confused I need some body's help.
4 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
I was in a very similar situation to yours. My anxiety disorder got really bad and out of control and my boyfriend was there with me through everything. He ended up getting really stressed out about my anxiety, which made me feel horrible. I got the help I needed and started to get better, but that caused us to grow apart (our relationship only worked for 10.5 months because we were both so unhappy with our own lives that being together made us both happy). After I started feeling better, he remained unhappy because of problems in his own life, we broke up. I'm not saying that this would happen to you, it's simply my own experience. (It sounds like your relationship was fine before your anxiety got bad. My ex had his problems way before we were together.) Anyway, I would suggest getting help for your anxiety. The sooner you do, the sooner you'll feel better, and the sooner your relationship will be back to normal again.
- Anonymous5 years ago
Anxiety can cause strain in a relationship due to the stress which is caused by anxiety in situations such as social occasions, staying in the house due to the inability to feel comfortable in a public place, etc. You need to seek out the help of someone who has been trained in the mental health field of medicine who will be able to help you to understand why you are feeling anxious, what you can do when this anxious feeling arises and how to avoid it if possible in the future. It might not be too wise in finding another person who also has anxiety. This could complicate any situation that may come to be. The best avenue that one should seek is to acquire the services of a professional who will be able to help you deal with the anxiety when it does occur.
- 8 years ago
Listen my friend, life is a ***** and some times. we just have to stay strong even know when we get anxiety. We have to fight this battler anxiety is a battle my friend. Have a beer or pray to god and ask for help this life is unfair.
