How do you console a man who'd wife just died..?

You tell him at her funeral (if you are there also), to "Not shed a tear for her on that day at her graveside," You tell him, "To do that is to show disrespect for her, not your love." You tell him that her funeral is not the proper time or place to cry, & that when he does let the tears flow away from her grave; You tell him "Do Not cry for Her, not ever; Cry for yourself instead!" .... Then, You explain your thoughts, for not a lot of people will understand what you meant by them. .. You explain that "Today is a very happy day." then you explain that sentiment by saying; "Regardless of our various religions & different beliefs, we all get taught one essential truth which we all believe to be true. We are all taught that when our body has reached the end of it's journey, when for whatever reasons it can no longer function & has to shut down & stop completely, we get told that the person has died." "However, this is not really true, the person has not died at all." "Yes, the body which we have all come to know & love as wife mother grandmother friend neighbour or whatever else has certainly died, but the body is only a shell, not the person." "The person who we all loved & still do is really the 'spirit' or soul if you have to use that word." "The spirit lives on." "So be very happy that Georgina has died." "We are all taught that after our death, the spirit moves on to live in a world free of pain & worry, a world far better than this one we are in." " So be very happy for my dear wife Georgina May Lewis, that she has gone to a far better place, & be very sad that you have been left behind & that we all must stay here." "Mourn for yourselves if you must mourn today at all. Georgina told me that these are her wishes for her funeral & I promised to honour them." "I intend to keep that promise to her.""I would ask as many of you to do the same but that of course is up to you." Thank You." OR You just show him Respect & Honour by asking the above question on Q&A............................. EDIT .;...................... The answer given by Christine above mine, is insulting to me. Perhaps the men are like that wherever she is? I do not know or care, but I live in AUSTRALIA & we are a very caring bunch of people. "How Dare You say that I will not remember!" How dare you even think that way!! ... Your Answer insults the meaning of Your own name too.

Please accept my deepest condolences.

He won't remember any of it anyway, just that you were there. Christine