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I love him, he gives alot of signs, but he has a girlfriend????

So here's the deal. I met this guy I started working with a few months ago, I was immediately attracted to him but shrugged it off because I knew he had a girlfriend. But, I've gotten to really know him and his personality because I work quite closely with him and we have an incredibly amount of similarities and we get along really well. He holds eye contact with me alot longer than I've ever experienced with anyone and I always have to break it because I get shy. He has invited me to hangout with him and compliments me on things and teases me and jokes around, and has moments where he gets protective. but I'm struggling to distinguish whether this is just him being my friend because he really is one of my best friends. Or if he has feelings for me. I love him to death, I know it's not infatuation because I don't just crave his attention. I want what's best for him I want him to be happy and to enjoy my company over anything else. I never stop thinking about him. Help :(

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    He probably does like you, but his mind keep going back to the fact that "I have girlfriend" and don't say you "just want what best for him". if just wanted what was best for him you would have not sat down and wrote this. Because I can tell by this statement that you clearly love him. Be honest with your SELF before anything else. HINTS the reason why you "cant stop thinking about him" and the saying "I love him to death" you want him that simple. its not selfish to want what makes you happy.( if he made you feel like crap would be with him)

    I think your more here for some one to tell you that "you shouldn't be do this", BUT Im not going to be that person. I feel that you want some to say "go get him". Almost like your asking for permission.

    For all we know we all live "ONCE" and if we do only live once sometime we have to be "selfish sons of bicttches" and go get what we want.(if your going to do this. You must to own it) p.s tread lightly because if you go after him wrong. you may just push him more into his girlfriends arms.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Sounds like a real problem there. Ok so first off the fact that ur so close with ur ex rly only shows that u must still be into one another. Yes, the 95 % txting is deff a sign, From what Im reading here it sounds a lot like he might still be interested. The fact that he texts first just shows he cant wait for u to txt and wants to talk to u badly, believe me I know (Im a guy :P) It's a tough question to answer. Seeing as that now you've become friends, maybe that's what he wants to remain and is just scared that ull get back together and break up again and the friendship would be ruined. This is all I can think of. Other than that, it sounds like u give him good signs, and maybe he's just scared he'd get hurt again, or hes scared u dun feel the same way. Of course there is the slight chance that he no longer has an attraction to you in a romantic sense, but I doubt it. You guys sound very close. My best suggestion would be that you talk it out with him. I mean, what's the worst that could happen? It's not like he'd stop talking to u if he wudn't feel the same way. You are intimate enuff to tell each other feelings you have. I'm very much convincend from the info I got from you that he still feels for you in some way. You know how we can be, not being able to converse our feelings, so yes, maybe make a move, say something.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Best Answer right here.

    This won't work for you. LOL at the friendzone him comment.

    Are any of you tracking she likes him and isn't sure about him liking her?

    Look tell him how you feel and let him decide, this isn't a movie, this isn't hollywood.

    He may say no, he may say yes. You don't want to be the other woman, yet you have no idea you if you have the opportunity to be the other woman. Look tell him soon how you feel, the longer you wait the more you will get hurt if he says no. Trust me it will sting, yet if it does happen it will not be so bad.

    On the other side of the coin what if he says yes? Then you can enjoy him sooner, and will not have to watch him enjoy another woman any longer.

    The choice is yours, my child. Your decision is the answer.

    Source(s): Son of God and all, don't mind me.
  • 8 years ago

    Time will tell! For now, since he does have a girlfriend, keep your distance. You'd want that same respect if it were switched around. If and when he is single and shows interest then and only then, you can show it in return. Time, time, time! :)

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  • 8 years ago

    run.....

    Don't date a guy with a girlfriend or who is in a relationship. If he likes you that much he will dump his girlfriend.

    You don't want to be the other women, don't get involved, just friend zone him for now.

  • 8 years ago

    You have to move on. I bet his girlfriend loves him just as much as you do. Maybe more.

  • 8 years ago

    If you love him just tell him and leave it up to him to decide.

  • Tom
    Lv 6
    8 years ago

    Gals can't stand it if a guy is respectable, can they ???

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