Should I bleach or is there an alternative? HELP HAIR PROB?

I am fifteen. I have done every color to my hair and put it through heck, ahah. About a year ago, I did red henna. It was VERY hard to bleach out, which I did around January. I brought it from the henna to a medium brown with lots of allover gold highlights. Well, about 2 months ago, I wanted to dye it medium brown, but the box color turned it a patchy black. SO I bought a dark brown to cover the light patches which turned it JET BLACK. THEN, i put red over to lessen the blue-black (which helped!) but I want it lighter... I'll put a link in of the color I want. I'm going to a top hair stylist in my state, but the last time a stylist bleached my hair (after the henna) THE ENDS TURNED TO JELLY.. Should I let them bleach it a little lighter or...? Cause with like four box color coats I don't think this black will fade on its own, but my hair has just grown to touch my waist and I don't wanna cut it more than 2 inches... or have the ends jelly off... HELP