family problems and spouse?

Hi well I am pretty much undecided what to do. for the past few months, every time we have a problem within out relationship, she tells most of our problems to her mother sister, grandma and now father.

Just the other day we had an argument and me being pissed off (which I know was wrong) told her to leave and go to your moms house, which she did.

for a long story short, her grandma says no guy is worth your tears, her dad told her look at your sister she is enjoying the single life. Almost makes me feel like whats the point in the relationship. Feels like her family disapproves of me.

I mean I come from a good family, majoring in computer engineering, have a computer job at the university, I do not drink, go to clubs or bars and to make it fair, I expected the same in a spouse. I also wanted someone who did not smoke, drink ect. Im pretty closed minded about that (speaking the truth) So yeah we have our occasional run ons where she wants to go somewhere where it is "party atmosphere" which I totally is not my thing and that is why I was looking for someone who shared the same interest as me so I wouldnt have to worry about that. Sorry, it is just the way I am.

So, I dont know; may I have you guys opinions?