How are men at fault in this scenario?

If men have trouble pleasing women, it's generally the women's fault. You only need to read some of the posts here or talk to women to hear the problem. "He should know what I want, I shouldn't have to tell him", "He clearly should've noticed my reaction when he did that vs. THAT, or "He's SUPPOSED to do it in THIS order so I get mine first".

Many women have this "golden vag" syndrome, where they believe that as long as they're "allowing sex", that they're doing more than their share. She makes him responsible for her orgasm, he's a failure if she didn't climax. On the other hand, if the guy has a problem climaxing, it's his own fault. So, under this school of thought, since the woman is giving this "greatest of gifts" to a man, he should be standing on his head to make her happy, and he should instinctively know exactly how to do it. The man, for his part, heck...30% of his blood supply is in his groin during arousal. He's likely not thinking much of anything, much less picking up her "clear cues", like that irritated twitch of her left eyebrow.

In short, I think men often have trouble pleasing women because a woman will hand him the "key to the castle", then just lay there and wait for the magic. A wise woman knows how to ask for or help herself to what she needs, while still being a giving partner in the event.

And, for the record, there isn't such a thing as a gold one. If a woman acts like hers is, it's time to move on.

A lot of women must fake orgasms or simply not say anything because it sure seems like men don't understand that most women need more than just intercourse. Remember that:

"Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse."

I agree with you that women need to communicate this but my guess is that they are in love and want to please so they sacrifice their pleasure for his - but is this so evil? If there are no lines of communication open to her, how can she tell him he is lousy in bed - that is so hard and sometimes if she is not experienced, she does not understand her sexuality either. I had a girlfriend who thought she was frigid because she had sex with a guy for 2 years and never had an orgasm. She met another and he gave her an orgasm and she married him!

For me, it usually takes about 3 times to teach my lover how I like it. One lover was not open to this and the relationship ended before I ever had any pleasure. It's really hard for women to get pleasure and especially if her lover is not open and has major ego problems.

Very few women fake orgasms unless they've been pushed to a point to where they realize their man is not capable of giving them one, yet their man gets mad or upset because she's not having one...or he just keeps thrusting and refuses to stop until she orgasms. At that point she just wants it to be over and tells him it's really okay, that she doesn't need one, but he doesn't give up. Eventually it starts to hurt and she realizes it's not going to end until he loses his erection or she pretends to have an orgasm.

The solution?

You guys need to buy some books on how to please a woman for goodness sake, instead of thinking that thrusting harder and for a longer amount of time is somehow going to help her orgasm. She needs clitoral stimulation.

The reason few men know how to please a woman is because they make the assumption that women are like men and that all they need is more thrusting.

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You said: "On the other hand, the book also said that most men (under 20%) did not think that their woman was faking an orgasm. Thus, denying your entire argument."

How does that "deny my argument." No where in my answer did I ever say that men know their woman is faking it. Also, how is under 20% "most men?" Did you fail maths or something?

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Lol! You're getting yourself all worked up. None of that matters at this point, now you know what really works...clitoral stimulation. Now get out there and cause some big O's. You can do it!

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Yes they are! Most women ARE able to masturbate themselves to orgasm...so what's the problem boys? Like I said before...clitoral stimulation is the key. Get in there and make it happen and stop making excuses out of laziness.

I love when men think they know everything about a woman's orgasm... I can have an orgasm, just from having to go pee... Just having to go pee reaches my G spot, sends chills up and down every nerve in my body, makes my stomach flutter, then add just THINKING about having sex, and it's all good. We don't need you for orgasms.

If you're uncaring, unloving and unhelpful and your needs are paramount to hers, you get a limp body in bed. If her orgasm [both clitoris and G spot] come first, you're in for the ride of your life.

Do not try to tell us what we feel in an orgasm, both orgasms when are capable of receiving, we can do so without a man. We want a man for care, compassion, loving and bonding...not just for sex...

Your absolutely right. How can she blame the guy for not giving her what she needs if she's pretending he is. In those cases women need to be up front and honest and don't lie thinking she's protecting his ego. If you want something fixed you have to admit the problem exists.

in this society men are to blamed for everything