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I wrote my husband a letter? I feel like letting go?

Me and my husband had are fun while dating. Buy I noticed he lost some interest in me . I really dont know why he got married to me or has sex . Álter getting married , like a year after he started ignoring me . On the phone 24/7 listening to music . And writing on facebook. Are sex like went to zero. Like once a year, he masturbates sometimes. Not much I dont know uf hes depressed. The thing Is I ese him as a brother . I think are relationship was a mistake. But for some reason I feel my daughter wasnt. I just think about her all the time. But I dont want to be by him , I hate him.

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  • Becky
    Lv 7
    8 years ago
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    If you feel this way, get a divorce.

    75% of all marriages end up in divorce because people got married for the wrong reasons. You have to think back about your motivations for getting married in the first place.

    It is NORMAL for people to calm down after a while, after they get married and have enough sex - few people can maintain the drive to have sex and constantly be with a person, pay attention to them all the time, devote themselves entirely to the other person - its just not normal or humanly possible to do that for most people. However, if the sex has backed off from like every day or several times a day to two or three times a week, that is NORMAL. If the person stops having sex with you all together, that is NOT NORMAL. That is selfish and inconsiderate and very telling that something fundamental has changed in the relationship. Facebook, is one of the major marriage wreckers on the internet. But he DOES have a legal right to keep you from reading his Facebook account or knowing what he is doing in any form as far as communications are concerned with others.

    I would highly suggest that you take a serious look at your own self and find out what part of YOU has turned him OFF. Don't tell me that you are not at fault in any way. It takes two to tango, and there are always two sides to every story. We are only getting your half.

    But if it truly is HIM and he has become disinterested in you and no longer wants to fulfill his marriage obligations such as having sex with you, then I would seriously consider divorce and moving on.

    Be prepared first. Do you have a career, a job - that you can move on with? Being a domestic housewife is a severe drawback in terms of employment. Employment gives you financial freedom.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You'd be far better off and happier on your own. Some relationships should never culminate in marriage. They can start out fun, but get very tired very quickly. Perhaps you really didn't have much in common with him. Now it's time to move on. Divorce him.

  • 8 years ago

    Don't give up on your marriage so easily. You made a vow, through good times and in bad. Figure out what is going on before you ditch him.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Leave him...I had a bf who I thought was good but then realized he was more of a bro then a boyfriend...don't wait until it's too late...I'm glad I broke up with him when I did!!! And u can't keep living with someone u hate!!

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  • JP
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    It is time you both together met a marriage councilor and a psychiatrist.

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    7 years ago

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