Would you stay with someone who wasn't "in love" with you?

A couple of years ago before meeting my boyfriend, I'll admit I was considering a "marriage of convenience". I've never had problems getting sex, and used to get a couple of marriage/live with me proposals every year. The only thing being my general lack of emotional connection to these people (men and women).

Could I have gone through living with someone I wasn't in love with? I don't know for sure, but I suspect not. I think the pair of you need to sit down and talk things through. Think about the way you are talking about your relationship here, it sounds almost like a business relationship, not a loving relationship. You say you've invested a great deal already, so are you prepared to invest more and more in something that looks like it could well fail? It may be better to get out while you can still be friends than to wait till the damage is irreparable!

I hate to say this but I think you guys should break up, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship and it's better leave now than wait and barry yourself more, it will only get worse with time. If he is cheating it is even worse. I know it sucks invest so much in a relationship and then let it go but I think it's better let it go and invest somewhere else that will deserve that investment more and will invest the same in you.

You say you hate investing time into a relationship to watch it fail, but how does investing more time into it to watch any good will you have toward the boy and still fail fix that? Of course you've had an attitude towards him, he's proven to be untrustworthy and hurt you. I believe you should walk away now, rather than wait for it to hurt even more.

No.

But I don't think you should give up on this relationship just yet - things said in the heat of the moment are rarely meant and this goes double for 'I love yous' and 'I hate yous' alike; there's too much weight in these words for you to take them seriously when they're tossed around meaninglessly in a heated argument.

Try to talk to him and make him realize how he's hurt you in the past and how some of his attitudes make you feel frustrated.

Just avoid at all costs any accusatory tones.

Make it clear to him you really want to make this relationship work.

Ooh this is tough.

Me personally, I wouldn't stay. I mean, why waste my time. But others would stay and try to work it out.

It's true, you don't deserve this treatment, but neither does he. So it's all up to you.

You can either stay and work it out, or just leave because you have spent time with this guy.

Good luck :)

I do believe it's quite normal in gay relationships you know the cheating and all the lies the one night stands the guilt it all creates from sex.

What?? PROVE TO HIM!! This guy loves you man!! But you CAN'T keep pushing him away!! Because it doesn't seem what he wants nor you.. try controlling your anger around him though, because ive had the same problem but just know that love is what will hold this up, not anger..