My boyfriend's daughter is getting married and I don't feel welcomed?

Then don't.

This is a time for family, which you are not - yet.

Chances are very good you never will be close to the bride, and the smartest thing you could do right now is to fade back into the woodwork and let them have their time together.

If you try to impose yourself on this situation, all you will do is make it difficult for your BF, and quite possibly ruin any relationship you might have had. The best thing you can do for him is to hang back, make yourself scarce, and have some comfort food ready for him when he reappears at your place. Anything else will be absolutely inappropriate. Do NOT go to the wedding or anything remotely associated with it.

I lost my mom when I was ten

My dad started dating right after, got married before she was gone a year

Even at ten, I knew it was wrong

At my wedding, many years later, I did not invite his girl friend to my wedding, because it was not serious. It was one of three women he been dating for years

You said Just past away

Even if your boyfriend could move on fast, does not mean his family can or should

Maybe you should respect his daughter and not go

It's hard to get married without a mom. If her mom just died, it will be harder

I bet she does not

It has more to do with the lost of the mother then you

How long ago did the wife pass, and how long have you been dating? If you were dating him while he was still married, I could definitely see her not wanting you there. Otherwise, if you haven't been dating him long (less than a year), I could definitely see her not wanting you involved, since she doesn't see you as part of her family, and maybe she sees it as an insult to her mom's memory that her dad's moved on and dating already.

Personally, I would probably let it go, tell your boyfriend you don't have to go, and let it just be his family.

Interesting ... not long ago you referred to her as your "stepdaughter to be." Is he your fiance or your boyfriend - or are you simply hoping to marry him some day? More importantly, how long ago did his wife pass?

Either way if it's fairly recent, I would probably not attend the wedding, as the daughter is grieving the loss of her mother. If she asked you specifically to be there, I would put aside my own feelings and be there for her. Otherwise, I think I'd suggest they let it be their special day and find other things to do.

How long have you been with the boyfriend? Was he seeing you whilst still married? If not, how long were he and his wife separated for?

The best thing to do in this situation is to speak with your boyfriend. Tell him that you don't feel welcome and see what he thinks. Ask him to speak with his daughter about the possibility of you attending her wedding so that he can suss the situation out.

Then realize that you are dealing with 'baggage' with this boyfriend and either accept it and stay home from wedding or move on from him ( after all if he has a girlfriend when his wife was still alive; he will do that to you should you become his wife someday)

Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and tell him to ask her if she is comfortable with you attending. Or why don't you just ask her, tell her because this is her day you don't want her to feel uncomfortable and want her to be happy. I'm sure if you talk to her you'll feel better and either way you'll know. I know i wouldn't want to go to someones wedding who didn't want me there.. good luck

Was he cheating on his wife with you? That would probably have something to do with the reception you're getting from his daughter.

You do not share much background so we do not know if you have been in his life for 6 month or 16 years. You have no official status as the dad's girlfriend so what exactly do you expect?

It is her wedding to do with as she wishes

Oh please. A month ago you were asking how to tell her you don't want to go to the wedding. That tends to make people less likely to "feel welcomed", wouldn't you say?