How Much Should We Really Care About What Other People Think of Us?

Everybody has to make that judgment for themselves.

Ralph Lauren wears the jeans with his name on the butt. Once he had an appointment with a financier who was known for his fondness for silk suits, so Ralph wore a suit to the interview. The financier showed up wearing jeans. That illustrates that some people are *very* concerned about what others think, and they go to great lengths to avoid causing offense accidentally.

At the other end of the world is a fellow who lives among poor people who assume that everything in the world is trash and everyone in the world is a jerk of one sort or another. That fellow simply can not afford to be concerned about what anybody thinks about him, since all the people around him think he really ought to get lost and not bother them any more.

Everybody has to assess his own situation and decide for himself how much to worry about what others think, if they think at all.

Rudy Guede killed Ms. Kercher.

We will probably never know why, but he left so much evidenece at the crime scene, we know he belongs in the gas chamber.

Rudy was adopted by the most rich and influential family in perugia, and he may have been an informer for the police. He should have been in jail in November for all the things he did and got caught in October. Some how he never does time. He was let out of jail, and he killed Meridith soon after.

The only evidence the cops had on Knox was a text message that Amanda made to Patrick. She said see you later, at the end of the message. The cops claim she meant to say that she would see Patrick later at the orgy

Well, people thought Amanda was some kind of a witch who made her boyfriend and her boss and Rudy kill Meridith. She got 26 years.

There is no evidence she is guilty, but people thought Prosecutor Mignini was a person you could believe was telling them the truth.

Maybe what people think of you is more than what you have done.

I think how we think of ourselves is more important than what others think of us. If we are comfortable with ourselves there is no need to define ourselves by what others think. In the case of Amanda Knox that is a unique situation and not something that happens everyday so it would be a bit unwise to change ourselves because we are worried that we might become the suspect in a murder investigation or something similar. You don't have to be cocky, arrogant or rude to others do your own thing, unless of course that is who you want to be but people who act that way are not really doing their own thing just using that attitude as a defense mechanism to deflect the judgements they perceive others have of who they are.

Very much as to make you feel insecure and life is not worth it.

Not at all as to behave like a common mammal, naked and all.

Swing back and forth in between.

We're social animals. A certain amount of cooperation and compromise is required to function as such.

People do care what others think despite protestations to the contrary.

Whether they modify their behaviour accordingly is rather more the point.