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Why do I have a hard time looking people in the eye?
It doesn't bother me around people I know, or who are my friends, but authority figures such as teachers or other school officials it really bothers me. Even if I've known them for awile, its just weird looking at them directly in the eyes. I have a tendency to look at them for a few seconds directly in the eye before I can't take it and I start to look around them for a few seconds and then look them in the eye again for a little bit and break away. This happens in everyday conversation, I am not one of those kids who lie all the time and have problems looking at people. I can just be having a regular conversation, or I could be asking for help and my mind is just telling me to look away. I can't hardly stand it. While this goes through my mind I have this tendency to block out what the people are saying to me because I'm preoccupied by my appearance or something, which is why I don't feel comfortable looking at them directly. Why do I do this? I hate having this feeling everyday, does anybody have some tips or suggestions to help me overcome this thing? Thank You
4 Answers
- Anonymous8 years agoFavorite Answer
First of all, I think it's natural and even adults can be this way with strangers, or authority figures, or people they just feel intimidated by, uncomfortable with, etc. But to overcome it, it might help to practice. For instance, you can try just looking at yourself in the mirror for a while to get used to orienting your eyes to the eyes of another. Granted, you're looking at yourself, but hopefully you get what I mean. Just try to get the hang of keeping your eyes focused on ... your eyes, lol. And then start with one of the easier teachers and try counting off. For instance, if you can only hold eye contact for 3 seconds, try counting to 4, and then try again counting to 5, etc. Then when you get good at that, move on to a somewhat harder person. Just keep taking small steps like that until you're comfortable and before you know it, you'll be able to hold a 'normal' conversation. Good luck!
- Marvelous MenuLv 68 years ago
Check your hearing and attend to what is being said (if you are interested). Don't be afraid to ask people to repeat what they have said. If it bothered others, they would let you know. Your eye span seems normal and polite. Nobody can read your mind when they look into your eyes. Sometimes, try looking into their eyes until they look away. You rule your mind. Practice having a conversation with your socially acceptable eye contact timing. Have the doctor check your ears. Sometimes, wax build up will cause the spoken word to drift. The doctor can remove hard wax and douche the ears, if needed.
- ?Lv 78 years ago
I wish I knew. Because that's exactly where I look first. Close enough. Im afraid not to. I hope you can conquer that one. The eyes chico, They never lie.
- ////Lv 78 years ago
When you come face-to-face with people you are unsure of yourself, unsure of how they perceive you. The look in someone's eyes can tell you what they think of you; you are afraid to look because they may be judging you harshly.