I think I am bisexual, but I don't know if I should come out to my family?

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I know there are quite a few younger people who think they're bisexual before they really know.

Basically, I've been attracted, maybe not sexually but generally attracted to both girls and boys since I first started noticing them, around age eight. Young, but I guess that everyone is different in that subject. This was around the same time I (accidentally) discovered porn.

My problem is, while I feel attracted to both genders.. I can't. Everyone in my family is Christian, and believe strongly that homosexuality is wrong. This would include bisexuality. Even if I was completely sure and I came out, everyone would be trying to change me, as though it would be something so easily moldable. I'm personally not entirely sure if it will pass, but I know for the moment I am greatly attracted to both genders. I'm worried that if I tell my parents, they'll look at me with disapproval, and if I tell my brother that he won't like me anymore.

I'd really appreciate some advice.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As Empathy mentioned, if you are still dependant on your family for support, don't tell them if there is a chance they could kick you out, or force you to see conversion therapy.

Wait until after college, or at least away from home AT College.

As to the Christian thing, remember Christ never said anything about homosexuality.  Most of the proscriptions against homosexuality are Old Testament.  Jesus said, at the Last Supper, that we are not entering a "new, and everlasting covenant" with him.  Which means the old laws of the Old Testament don't apply to  us.  We can eat shellfish.  We can eat cheeseburgers, we don't have to walk around unshaven.

Just pay attention to "the red words" (the words Jesus actually said) in the bible and don't be too stressed out.

Wukong · Answer

Do you want to have sex with girls. And then when you look at a boy, do you want to stick your penis up his bum.
If yes, you are bisexual.
If not, you are not bisexual - just a very normal young person. Attractions and confused thoughts are common at younger ages.

If you talk to a homosexual or bisexual, most (not all) usually try to convince you that you are, too.
Some (not all) Christians will be the other way.
These people are not listening to you, just trying to use you. 
What you need is to talk to someone understanding and unbiased, that you can trust.

As to your parents, only you can know.

? · Answer

"My problem is, while I feel attracted to both genders.. I can't."  <- No, it's this statement that is the problem.

I don't know how old you are, but if you are still under 18 and fear getting kicked out of the house, keep your sexual information from your parents. Your safety comes first.

And just a quick point. There isn't anything wrong about being gay. There is something wrong about being  Christian.

? · Answer

If you're going to risk being kicked out of the house and have no where else to go, i'd suggest you keep it a secret until you are ABLE to move out. It's not an uncommon situation though. If you have a realllly good friend thats accepting, you should tell him/her for some support.

Rosie Minestocie · Answer

Listen give it some time.  Right now is not the best time to tell family because you sound unsure.  You should go see a therapist so that way you can figure things out with the therapist help.  Now is not the time.

Dylan S · Answer

You should wait until you are in a same sex relationship then they really couldn&#x27;t deny that you ARE bisexual

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