Worried about the future and how my daughter will feel towards me.?

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Basically I have a beautiful 9 year old daughter who I dote on. She's a daddy's girl and we really do get on well and always have fun. 

Anyway, me and her mum split when she was just under 2. I've seen her a few times a week ever since. My concern is, as she gets older and nears puberty, how will this affect our relationship? I'm worried that no matter what a parent does, most kids will go through spells of disliking them. How long would this normally last and do you have any advice on how to deal with it?

Ranchmom1 · Accepted Answer

She will not automatically hate you, I promise.

We have three girls ages 28, 21, and 18.  All of them have a great relationship with their dad.

Keep up communication, and by communication I do *not* mean lecturing. Continue to take an active interest in her life and attend her sporting events and plays and concerts.  Talk with her about her friends and their lives and their challenges.

The very best gift a girl can have to develop healthy self esteem and to help her choose a good husband is a dad who loves her and spends time with her.

Wishing you well!

Anonymous · Answer

There is no reason she will dislike you .
As long as you talk to her about her feelings and understand that she may
be a bit emotional at times.
My little girl is 9.
She wants hugs and cuddles and teddy bears but is also almost in bras
and becoming independent - so go at her pace.
But try to change a bit  -  her dad rubbed her chest the other day and nuzzled her neck in front
of her friends - and she was in tears later.
What was ok last year isn't this year now she's 9 as she has boobs growing ;)
He didn't realise this and apologised later - but hopefully you will just ask her
what is ok and what is not - that will prevent any embarrassing incidents like that.

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