I need help from other women who have had misscarriages?

Well, I had my baby but he past away at 15 weeks old... I suggest God and counciling lots and lots of both...

I didnt cope well. I think the most important thing is to recognize that you lost your baby, who is a person. It seems like often people treat the loss of a preterm baby differently. I think you should have a service and you should seek the support of your friends. You are right to be sad. But you must realize that you did nothing to cause this and there was nothing you could do to prevent it.

It's very very hard but it's just something you've got to let go. You just need to focus on your three beautiful kids and be grateful that. you have them

I am very sorry for your loss, my heart truly goes out to you.

My first daughter was stillborn at 24 weeks (8 years ago). Her heart just stopped beating for no medical reason (autopsy, tests on her and me), we were both perfectly healthy.

It is so hard, a life shattering experience and my heart hurts for you to be going through this.

To go into a hospital pregnant and to leave no longer pregnant and no baby in your arms is something that no one can imagine how it feels. It's horrible, devastating.

Going through labour, knowing that your baby will not breath, will not cry, will not open their eyes is horrific. To go through complete labour knowing this from the start breaks a person. It really does break a person. The labour process is cruel and the end result takes a part of you that is never replaced. To see/hold a baby that is born "still" is the most heart wrenching, soul destroying thing.

After the labour, after my daughters funeral, my life just crumbled around me. I had trouble dealing with her loss but watching her tiny coffin being lowered into the ground destroyed me, a piece of me went with her. I was lost, in a place that no one else could access. I went through so much anger, blame and guilt and no one around me could reach me. She was my first pregnancy/daughter.

I had photo's, clothes, blankets, hospital band, foot prints etc that the hospital staff had collected and kept for me and also photo's that my sister had taken. I couldn't bear to look at them, but it was those things that pulled me through slowly. I sat working on remembering my angel, determined that she would never be forgotten. I made a beautiful scrap book and keepsake box to hold all of her items, I found beautiful quotes and sayings. This filled my time and I just cried and cried as I did this.

My teenage niece also sent me into controllable tears, turning up one day a few weeks after my daughters death. She had sat down and made me a scrap book with photos and her words. I have tears in my eyes now, 8 years later as I type this as I remember this day so clear. What she did, her thoughtfulness at her age was heart warming.

I returned to work and continued life half heartedly, It took me awhile to realise that not only did I lose my daughter, but my parents lost their grand daughter, my sister lost her niece and my nieces/nephews lost a cousin etc. Everyone around me was also a grieving a loss. But I never thought of that at the time, I was hurting too much myself.

Allow yourself to grieve, to go through the process and to slowly heal. Some heal quick, others it takes time (it took me 4 years unfortunately). You have 3 healthy children who you must cherish and who need their mother. They need to healthy and they need your support. This does not mean you cannot grieve your recent loss, as you must. But just cherish those 3 healthy kids you have with you.

Your lost "angel" is forever with you. He/she is never far away. A distant thought, a memory, a tear, and many other places, your "angel" is forever in your heart and your mind.

It's been 8 years since my daughter was stillborn. I have a healthy 3.5yr old son and a healthy 2.5yr old daughter. I cherish them and they are my world, but never has my first daughter ever been forgotten. She is still with me. I can still see her as clearly as the day I gave birth. The raw pain is not there, the heavy chest and unable to breath has gone, but I do still cry. Her anniversary day I still allow a few tears. It truly does get easier, but it is never forgotten.

My 2 healthy kids are the best things to ever happen to me, but my first daughter will never be replaced or erased.

I don't know if it was a coincidence or just weird, but when I gave birth to my "2nd" daughter 6 years later, I walked out of the hospital/discharged from hospital with a healthy baby girl on the exact day of my first daughters birth/death, just 6 years later. I walked out the hospital crying from happiness and also sadness. 6 years exactly after the birth/death of my first child, I was walking out a hospital with a 14 month old son and a newborn daughter.

The anniversary for me is not so hard now, I remember my daughter, I shed tears, but i also think of how 6 years later i walked out a hospital with a healthy daughter to join my healthy son.

Other ideas is to plant a tree, flower etc and nurture it. Plant the tree/flower/shrub as a "baby" plant and nurture it and keep for all the years to come. In Memory of My (baby Name) plaque or sign. A special place for your special angel.

Again, i am very sorry for your loss and i wish you all the best.

If it gets too much, never be ashamed to accept/seek professional help to talk this all through.